My partner is almost perfect in every way, and I'm very much in love with him.
BUT...
he wants me to pinch, bite, scratch and smack him. All I want to do is cuddle and caress him and all that. One time he got me to scratch his back with my nails, he kept telling me to do it harder, when I looked I almost cut him, I was very upset.
I don't want to hurt him like this, but I dont want to lose him. I dont have family nearby to talk to or any friends, is there any one out there who can give me advice?
2006-06-20 21:23:48 · 31 answers · asked by kway_tzar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like he has a fetish for pain luv.. it's a sexual turn on for him.... tell him your misgivings and ask him to understand that it
s not 'natural' for you to do these things to him .. maybe u both can come to a compromise...
Good Luck.. Peace~
2006-06-20 21:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by mistressvampyr4urpleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pleasure and pain are a tightly woven combination that can be great together, some people even get off by being asphyxiated. A little pain is ggod as long as it does no long term damage. But only between two consenting adults. This one is down to you and how you feel about it.
Actually after looking at your picture forget what I said, leave him, he's no good for you, come pinch me instead :-)
2006-06-20 21:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by dave w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how uncomfortable you are with this stuff.
in a loving relationship there has to be compromise, and i don't believe anyone should ever do something that makes them anxious, stressed or worried.
your partner sounds like he has a very different sexual style form you and that's fine, :) ...maybe it would help to seek professional counselling together if you can't talk it over and reach a happy medium..... but pleasure pain can be incredibly erotic, and perhaps this is all he's seeking...if it's more than this...extreme pain then i think you both have to approach it with caution...it could get dangerous...and if you're not into that, then do not let yourself be persuaded into something you really aren't comfortable with.
good luck with it and i hope you work it out. :)
2006-06-27 04:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by glasgow gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your partner may just have some different tastes in sexual expression.
Understand that some people enjoy pain. They believe it heightens the feeling.
If your partner enjoys it, then there is no reason to let it upset you. If however you are truly disturbed, then you need to make sure that the two of you have a long talk about it.
2006-06-20 21:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you dont want to lose him, just have fun and do what you feel comfortable for him. Hes basically asking for you to show him hes driving you crazy. I know I always felt good when my partner would loose control like that. I dont know about the smacking stuff, thats the last thing I want when Im having really good sex..
2006-06-20 21:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear if u're not into painful pleasure when making love u better look for a guy who would cuddle and bear hug u.Else u'll soon be the one being pinched,scartch and soon will be beaten and he'll tell u "if u really love me u'll do what will make me happy"
That is if he not already saying so.He'llend up enslaving u and when he find some match for him.He'll dump you.You can bet on that.
2006-06-20 22:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by folistone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for sure ur partner is facing a problem so u should be beside him try to talk to him about it and know why he wants that kind of behaviour tell him its abnormal and that u want to give him sweet love not cause injuries and pain i think he needs to see a theropist seeing a theropist isnt a shameful manner but on the contrary it would relief
2006-06-20 21:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Egyptian Daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are some people like your boyfriend, but luckily for you most of the guys out there are a little bit more normal, that relation is not healthy for you, if you don't like what he make you do, then is not right for you , I guess he can find a girl like him who likes to be with guys like him, and respecting to you been alone and not having nobody to talk to, you can always meet new people , remember this : We were born alone, nobody is gonna die with us , we meet people they make us company during our life , when you don't have your family nearby you have to be strong, you are by yourself, but you are not alone, and there is one being always ready to listen to what you have to say, our father Jesus Crist
2006-06-20 21:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by eru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with it, then don't do it. Your partner has a common fetish, however, and if you two can communicate about it, it might be satisfying to both of you. Communication and honesty is the key here. Don't be afraid that you'll lose him. You just need to be honest about what is or isn't okay with you. Good luck.
2006-06-20 21:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the sense of being different in bed than real life is exhilarating.
Maybe he's looking for something less passive, peaceful and serene as you are during your day to day life...
so pinch him, squeeze him
...be rough...be aggressive...
don't be timid...he may decide it's not what he wants and return to what you're used to.
2006-06-20 21:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ppl get tempted for the enjoying by doing these kinda activities..
dont worry... nothing will happen if u do like this...
just keep ur nails clean so tat wen u scratch him it wont get septic..
be cool to everyone n hot to him ;)...
ALL THE BEST bye...
2006-06-20 21:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by cm_muraz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋