I have heard of pastors / businessmen / statesmen who do the following as a way of guarding against committing adultery or even an appearance of unfaithfulness to their spouses:
- When they have to offer counselling to a woman or privately meet a female client, they either go with their wives or opt for a public place.
- If they have to hire a nanny or female secretary, they first get their wives' opinion or hire an older woman.
- They never go on overnight or few days business trips with their female secretaries alone, they would rather have their wives be with them or have separate travel arrangements.
I felt like asking this because I do counsel or offer advice to young married men who are facing a lot of temptations.
How can I help them to remain faithful to their spouses?
2006-06-20 21:08:54 · 7 answers · asked by vusimhl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think that is great advice to follow. It leaves any question out. No one could accuse them of any wrong doing. If these young men are having problems being faithful, I would get them in church and tell them to confide in their wives. That would get it off of their chest and hold them accountable for any actions they may take in the future. Wives have a way of straightening out their husbands if they know what is going on in their head.
2006-06-20 21:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After twenty years of giving marital and dating advice, I have come to the realization that there is very little that can be done to keep someone faithful. There are two kinds of people in the world (with very few exceptions). Those with moral fiber, who care enough about their partner, and would never consider cheating, no matter the situation - and those with much less moral fiber, who given the right circumstances would be unfaithful. In many ways this is related to their upbringing, and how their parents acted - and sometimes it's related to their peer groups.
I just tell them to put the shoe on the other foot. How would they feel if they knew their spouses were cheating? The pain works both ways. But all in all, someone who does not value faithfulness - either via religion, love, respect, etc... - will always find a way to be unfaithful.
2006-06-20 21:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Buster Van Buren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is now a preacher in my home town that every one know that when he's goes to pray with a woman he could be getting busy.
His wife followed him one night.
So yes this is a good idea.
Because you don't want anyone starting rumors or anything like that.
Have a female near by if there is a woman you are counseling.
You have a job to do and you don't want hear say to jeopardize that!
2006-06-20 21:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats ridiculous to not be able to control yourself...they shouldn't be married...I would ask them "do they want to cheat on there wives" ask them again after they say no...and tell them then why do they think they will? Something is going on in the "till death do us part department" these men have what you call..Monogamy problems
2006-06-20 21:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by ILAUGHATU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you set te guid lines. "i wish to see you and meet your wife" or lets meed in the park sense its such a lovely day."
2006-06-20 21:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, these precautions that you've concocted make sense.
2006-06-20 21:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by art guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"a sex change is the only way to preserve the sanctity of marriage"
2006-06-20 21:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by MM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋