if someone flirting with you and ask you to do some affairs, having sex at middle of day in hotel room, would you do it?
considering, you have no problem with your wife or husband, it just, a opportunity for having sex with someone else..would you take it or not, and why?
2006-06-20 20:35:43 · 22 answers · asked by putradbm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I would not. It's been a long hard road finding the love of my life, my husband. I would not do anything to jeopardize loosing him or breaking up our happy home. Even if we were going through hard times, 'cause those always pass. Not to mention that I made a commitment to this man, and if I broke that trust, he would never trust me again and the relationship would be over.
2006-06-20 20:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, No, No,!You have taken vows and part of that involves trust. It may seem harmless at first but these things have a way of becoming complicated in a hurry,especially when a fling leads to one or both parties getting serious and falling in love.You also have to deal with the guilt feelings that in a successful marriage,should be there before things even get to first base.And,if you are doing it, who says that somewhere down the line,your mate does it.Well,maybe your mate does it.How can you be sure.There is no longer trust to rely on.From experience,once the spouse fools around once,it will happen again. Good Luck .Bigdogie
2006-06-21 03:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by bigdogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the sacred bond that marriage is, consider that the time you could be spending with improving your marital relationship is now being diverted into a sexual relationship with someone else. Even if you think you are having no problems with a spouse now, or think the spouse MAY not find out, because of the oneness of the relationship, spouses always, on a certain level, know when their spouse is not being completely faithful to them.
2006-06-21 04:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by icyharris2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude a marriage is sacred. besides if u confuse the word married with merried then how the hek do u know instead of someone asking u to have an affair that they don't mean take u to a fair. (lol) don't fall out of the ferris wheel or the bed whichever comes first.
2006-06-21 04:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by naztman2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have the whole concept of love and sex mixed up. Many, sad to say, also share your attitude. As they see it, sex and love are two different things. A man loves his wife or vise versa, and respects her or him. They wouldn't want to see their marriage break up, they don't want to lose their children. But they see no reason why an extramarital affair should threaten all this. The chief responsibility would be to keep the other partner from finding out what he's up to. As long as he succeeds in covering up, he's not hurting anyone. He figures that he is all the more loving and attentive to his partner when he returns, he's more relaxed, more loving. He feels that he is actually helping his partner out by lying to them. BALONEY!!
When two people are married, they are openly, totally committed to each other. Each one trusts the other to sincerely try never to hurt each other. They are to seek happiness and fulfillment with each other. So when one partner decides to turn away from his partner and seek gratification in someone else, he betrays that trust.
If you deceide to follow through with your fantasy, you will only be your own worst enemy. When you have to lie to the one you love, the one who trusts you, your bound to lose. That lie that protects you from your partners anger and resentment at the same time will rob you of the tender intimacy you once shared with your partner. You will not be able to open up your heart to the one you love. Your every though will have to be monitored, you will have to weigh every word you say and you will always be afraid in case your memory spills the beans. You will indeed be your own worst enemy!!
2006-06-21 04:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way in the world I would even think twice about it. If you love the person you are with you shouldn't think about having sex with someone else. If you do feel this would be ok then maybe you don't love the person you are with and you shouldn't be waisting their time and yours on nothing.
2006-06-21 03:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by l_a_hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are happy and contented with your spouse, you will not be tempted to do such things.
You will just think for your spouse and for the relationship that will be sacrificed after that mistake you are going to do. the first thing that will come to your mind is the consequences. You're happy with the one you married so you will not take the "other one" whom you do not know.
2006-06-21 04:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by bembie719 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't because that passion fades and you end up getting caught and the guilt won't let you live. So why do it in the 1st place..there are so many things to spice up your life that you don't need that thrill unless your lacking something in your marriage.
2006-06-27 14:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the time when we have to show that we are human beings and not pigs. sex is not just getting an opportuity if u do that it would be serious dishonesty with ur partner
2006-06-21 03:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by zahid Bukhsh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea how much i want a husband right now? do you think i would want to jeopardise my marriage once i'm married hell no
2006-06-21 03:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by DZEDZEA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋