The last time I actually wanted sex was when I was 18. I had this one night stand with a male friend of mine (he was Australian & I couln't resist his voice!). That night, I will admit was the BEST night I ever had! I'll just say, it lasted all night & he made sure I was completely "happy". (You girls know most guys will just roll over & fall asleep! lol) Since then, I feel as if I was "too satisfied". I have not wanted sex since! I have had sex since, but no one or nothing seems to get me even wanting to have sex anymore. I'm afraid that I will never expierence a "happy ending" again! The only way I can even have sex now is by thinking of that night! I do live with a guy now, but just feel bad that I can't enjoy ex anymore. Sould I just give up or does someone have avice on something to try? I don't have enough money to keep going to the doctor. HELP!!!
2006-06-20 20:21:39 · 13 answers · asked by Xtal 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Here's my bright idea... get the guy you live with to speak with an Australian accent. Buy a whole bunch of Crocodile Dundee movies and make him rehearse until the sheer sound of his voice makes you quiver.
Other than that... maybe you should go soul searching for the REAL reason sex is no longer a turn on. Being one of the most powerful human urges, the need for expression sexually should not be belittled or ignored, especially if you've managed to tie it in with something other than pure physical pleasure.
Good luck!
2006-06-20 20:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by nicole p 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It happens, there is nothing much to worry about. It is happening to you because the night when you had sex was a great experience for you. First of all stop worrying that you wont have the same experience again, because your this fear only decreasing your libido. Talk about your problem with the guy you live and tell him what exactly you want, and just forget everything and try to enjoy your pal. Try using different places for the sex. all the best. Never ever try to recreate a part or sound of that night, Because the more you will think the more you will be in problem.
2006-06-20 20:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by VVK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sounds like you're hung up on that night. You should talk to your guy more about 'hey tonight, i want this to happen' and take charge and tell him what to do- don't sit there and detail everything your Aussie friend did of course. Try and recreate parts of it, sounds kind of like you're trying to avoid actually enjoying sex because of the one night stand. Girl- get in there and show him how it goes.... if that doesn't work, have you thought maybe you arent as attracted to this guy as the Aussie guy? Something to think about.
2006-06-20 20:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Raych 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why you are suppose to wait until you are married! If you would have waited you would have either ended up with the guy forever or you would have never had the opportunity to feel so great, therefore everything you experienced when you did get married would feel to the best of your expectations.
2006-06-20 20:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Proverbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stop comparing every encounter to that one. You got lucky when you found a man who could completely satisfy you. Maybe if you stopped comparing and just learned to enjoy the moment, you might have that "happy ending" you are so desperately trying to recreate.
2006-06-20 20:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry. like you said your friend satisfied you.. i think you should find him, and be friends with benefits... its hard coming across guys who are good in bed. once you find em, keep him, whether its arelationship, or its a friendship. call him back, and invite him over. is he says no, then get him drunk, and tell him ____ (whatever you say dont tell him youre having sex with him,) then have fun! i was kidding about the last part, but seriously, contact him, hun. i know how u feel. the first time i had sex, it sucked so bad i almost went gay. not my b/f is so good, i cant leave him! :)
2006-06-20 20:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most likely you had deep feelings for this other guy, thats why other encounters have not measured up to standards, then its always possible the last few lays you had have been duds.(losers) you will want and enjoy sex again once you find someone your really into
2006-06-20 20:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have fun in life first.
2006-06-20 20:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by Judas Rabbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of your expectations, they keep you anchored down.
2006-06-20 20:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by blammo300 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept the life as it comes.
2006-06-20 20:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by tania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋