If you never had a father, or lost your father, what traits about yourself did you discover that this took away from you. Or, maybe that you were never able to establish. I am asking this wondering if anyone else who has had a similiar expeirence, has discovered about themselves something that they lost or gained, that was negative, from the absence of a father in their life.
2006-06-20 20:19:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Me personally...I've really never been able to talk to other people adequately or even bond with other people outside of my family very well my writing skills are better, I don't have a speech impediment or anything but it often times feels like I do only for the fact that I can't seem to talk I clam up and I feel like I have no voice, (this happens mostly to people that I already know it's like I hesitate to say something or give my imput and then the time passes and even if I could say something it wouldn't make sense) and I know very well that from my childhood I used to talk anyone's ear off when my father was still alive. I've never had a best friend and the one I did have really wasn't a very good friend at all. I've always felt like a loner I still feel like that piece is missing and as of now I haven't been able to find it. I'm also a bit too protective of my friends and family. It's hard to tell if some of the things I go through are from not having lost my father at a young age or from something else. I really have a hard time finishing things and I always seem to be the reason for my failures it isn't because I'm not good enough at what I do it just always seem like as I get to a good point in my life I sabotage myself and everything goes aw rye. I know I am a very independent person though I believe if you want something done right you need to do it yourself and I try to rely on other people very little and I am a hard worker. These are just some of the things I've begun to realize about myself over the years.
2006-06-20 21:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by KitKat 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Men and women are as different as night and day. The absence of a farther would deprive someone of knowing the different points of view from a male perspective. A good father would be a role model for a young girl. That would be a big influence on who the girl chooses for a mate later on. A potential mate would have to measure up to the father. If a farther is abusive and has no moral fabric then the girl learns that as well. Thinking that men are like that and accept these things and always ends up playing the victim. Children that are raised with a good mother and farther have a better understanding of relationships. People have to realize these things and break away from traditional way things work.
2006-06-21 03:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by captpcb216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my husband 15 years ago ,I had 2 girls from him ,my dad was like a father to them 10 years later I remarried now they have a stepfather
I am trying hard to be a mother and a father to them till the rest of my life ,they miss him ,they never knew him they were babies when he died,but I think I gave them all they need and still giving.
2006-06-21 11:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by phopper megga blaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i grew up without a dad.. and i guess i never had to deal with seeing him beat her. no.. that would be sterotyping. i have less respect for men..
no offense to you men out there, thats just how i am.
and i feel left out when i see other people with a dad in their lives. it makes someone feel, well unloved. and unimportant.
2006-06-21 03:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by kelluvsang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wounded soldier seek the way out no matter how mach it takes ,and only wayout is to set your goal father fiqure
2006-06-21 03:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by helloncush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the usual dad things. sports (or competition), masculinity, self identity, the list goes on and on.
2006-06-21 03:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by MM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋