insecure...need some input...?

Question

i satisfy my husband as often as i can(like every day) selfless mind you ( if you know what i mean) i let him know ahead of time if i want it, like this afternoon i took care of him, and told him i would want it after work, cause for me its been 3-4 days, i came home, and he wanted to go ride bikes with a friend that he has plans to ride with tomorrow, so i said no, mind you its like midnight when he wants to go...n e way, i asked him arnt you tired, he said no...so i said goody that means i get some tonight? he said nothing for like a min, and i said nevermind...he went to bed and i found the history deleted, why does he do this to me? he knew he wouldnt want me after that and he did it any way, after i told him ...i just feel realy hurt, and i dont understand...i know he doesnt like the effort it takes for sex (i'm pregnant and have gotten into the awkward angle/position stage), but i know he loves me, and he knows that i dont care as long as it doesnt effect how often were together

now hes snoring, i'm crying and cant get to sleep and theres no one else to talk to...please give me something to read....

no! its porn silly!on the puter...while i was at work he had our 3 daughters1, 3 and 7, i promise if he ever went to womans house, or she came here, my 7 and 3 year old would give him away!

but if i dont give, he takes care of himself, if i could be on top hed give me sex, but when i'm on top it hurts my stomach and causes muscle contractions so i cant stay on top as long as it takes anymore, wich means if he wants to finish at that point he has to do most of the work...i think its more focused on the fact that every time i go to work, hes like a kid watchin dads porn, hes draw to it like a magnet, i dont know, realy thats just a guess, but i know there is no other physical woman, i'm the only one hes ever been with, and he is most of the time a hermit, he doesnt realy like people he only hangs out with one friend and its my best friends bf...

Answer 1

Could you suggest, um, satisfying, stuff that doesn't require angles. Perhaps a marital aid or hand stimulation. You deserve effort, and have a right to talk openly about sexual issues including porn. That conversation will not go well tonight, gather your thoughts, remember you love him, and talk calmly and lovingly about it. I find those hard talks easier if he will lay down and hold me while we talk (perhaps sans clothing). It is hard to be spiteful or angry when I am nuzzled in his chest. It sounds cheesy, but try to use "I feel" instead of "you made me". Good luck, and Congrats on the baby.

Answer 2

When God is first calling you the effects can be incredible. Goosebumps are often a result. Often as Christians mature they long for the feeling they had when God first answered their prayers. Why is this? Perhaps it is God's way of letting doubters know he truly exists. Do you read the Bible? If not, or you have and never understood it, try again. It is amazing how God can open your eyes, and you will begin to understand concepts that seemed foreign to you before. Know this. God exists. I have experienced him first hand so many times that I no longer have any doubts. He is not a myth, not only does he deliver peace into your life, he delivers eternal life into your future. He is not a jailer, he brings freedom to deny Satan's temptations and the death he brings.

Answer 3

trust me i know how you feel. i was in the same boat for awhile. i would have to go weeks with nothing, but when my husband wanted to 'get off' he expected me to be right there to do it for him. he told me later that one of the reasons he did not have sex often with me while i was preg was because he was afraid the baby would get hurt, or would see something. ( yea, you can tell he didnt pay much attention in health class). just talk to him and let him know how you feel. if he doesnt want to talk about it, dont do anything for him for awhile and just tell him your on strike cause he doesnt want to help get you off so why should you help him? lol. if he doesnt return the favor, stop helping him. he will learn that to get he has to give.

Answer 4

my opinion is that he is not telling you something. there is something behind his actions and there is a reason why this behavior is taking place. it maybe something silly as he's afraid to hurt the baby or is uncomfortable being intimate with you while your pregnant or he maybe really trippin and is cheating (but i doubt it) if he's been paying more attention to you since you've been pregnant ( except the intimacy) that means he's devoted to you, but is uncomfortable with the intimacy while pregnant. In my opinion.

Answer 5

hun you need a reality check if you tell him you horny and he wont do anything about it and looking for ways out wanting to go hang witht he guys and choking his chicken to avoid having sex then you need to get to the real issue it isnt that he dont like the effort it takes to have sex!!!!!!

Answer 6

maybe he is cheating u really must follow him to find out and regarding sex don’t give to him when he asks for it just say ur tired use his own medicine on him.

Answer 7

Maybe you should follow him, hes probably cheating... have you ever watched the show "cheaters? you should call them

Answer 8

meybe he's tired, but then i couldn't understand what you said.