It seems that the older I get the more insecure I feel. I really don't think it getting older that makes me insecure, It's deeper than outward appearances. The only thing I can think of is for years I was able to rely on my looks to get me through life and I did not have to look within too deeply,
In the last 12 years, I have gone through a divorce (husband gay)...been a single mom of 2 children for all the 12 years after the divorce....struggled just to makes ends meat (quite comfortable when married)...oldest child got into meth (off of it now, but still smokes pot...had cancer and went through treatment 4 years ago...still struggiling with finances even more today...oldest child drops out of school age 18) with youngest child (age 16) in an alternative school.
Being a good mother was and is the most important thing in the world and I feel like I have failed them in sooo many ways. Although I have done my best...it obviously has not been good enough.
2006-06-20 20:07:29 · 6 answers · asked by catwisp 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't mean to minimize your feelings of insecurity at all. I may be that most of us feel insecure to one degree or another. I guess for me..I've got three grown daughters..when I start thinking I should have been a better mother..or I think I could have been more available to them..I think..and I believe..that I did the very best I could. As far as growing older goes..I think that the kind of introspection that seems to come with the years is a good thing. Talk to your kids!! Tell them how you're feeling..Listen to what they say too. Sounds to me like you've done you're very best. It's YOU that has to know that...Your post tells me you love your children alot..
2006-06-20 21:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by twinkles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is good enough? Three children who lived to adulthood, helping one kick a meth addiction, all your kids made it through 12 years of some kind of education, you have paid the rent, electricity and internet bill this month, and you know where all your kids are even though they gave you trouble.
Mom of the year? Maybe not, but certainly more than "good enough". Get a friend to remind you of this regularly, and maybe see a pastor or counselor to see if the "insecurity" is really depression.
2006-06-21 03:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne- LEAVES Military Ministry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still feel insecure. I think its part of life as a woman to have doubts and need constant assurance and petting. I always look for someone to give me that extra push to help me out.
2006-06-21 03:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... The only answer i can i can give you is that through ur marriage you have experienced so much depression,which looks can't help you. Your children's future has not turned out the way you expected. You sound pretty much stressed out from all this. My opinion.
2006-06-21 03:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard for you, but life doesn't tell you where it will take you next.Its just that the past is still living IN you........
2006-06-21 03:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
inside everyone is a divine spark
which makes her equal to anyone else,,,,,u just hav
to uncover it
2006-06-21 07:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by enigma q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋