My brother doesn't seem to want to help himself our family has been going through this for about 3 years now. He has been in and out of jail and rehab but continue to steal from us. I heard you have to let this type of person hit rock bottom before he wants help. My mom and dad are so worried about him he leaves for days no call no nothing, things come up missing what are we suppose to do?
2006-06-20 20:04:24 · 12 answers · asked by askmeguru21 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
as a last resort yes, letting go is the only way to help him... and yes letting them hit rock bottom may be the only way to stop it all...... if all else fails , after trying to get him help, intervention, and all......... your parents sound as if they have done all they can do...... it is hard and heart breaking, been there and done that, but unless your brother wants help there is nothing no one can do....... not even a professional can help.. you can lead a donkey to water but you can't make it drink...... old saying but very, very true !!! and try some straight talk and prayer with God........ God bless
2006-06-20 20:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some times it's the best thing to do. No matter what you do or how hard you try to help a person addicted to drugs if they don't
want to help them self there's not a hole lot you can do.
No matter how much you love them some times loves not always enough and it doesn't make you a bad person if you
dis-own your brother.
Some times you have to be tough and stand your ground.
I know first hand I had ex-girlfriend who turned out to be a junkie
she hid it well for months but I found out. I tried to help her
kick the drugs and I tried to get her to a rehab but every time she would run off for days and go do more drugs. No matter what I
did or how hard I tried there was nothing I could do to help her
so I just had to walk away and not look back .
I hope this helps you out.
2006-06-20 20:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Wagon Burner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that I am in the same situation with my sister, I started off trying to MAKE her be sober, after years of doing this, I tried to dis-own her, That didn't work either, after some thinking, I decided, to NEVER let her in my house, or leave her with anything of value or importance, took our relationship from sisters to pretty much acquaintances, your brother has to WANT to stop what he is doing, no one but him can make the decision to be sober, but you have to think of you and your family, if he steals from you, call the police, if he is around you and he is "high" kick him out. Let him know that his actions will NOT be tolerated!
REMEMBER!! he made the decision to become an addict. NOT you and your family, It is hard and pulls at your heart, but you HAVE to do this for you and your brother, he is an addict and a criminal,
2006-06-20 20:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is never easy Because family likes to fix things/ Mom n Dad want to protect their kids and brothers wish they could be the piece maker.. He is out of control and Eventually hopefully before its to late he will become normal again.. he is either running away from something personal or just is acting on his immature selfish side. I vote selfish side most drug addicts are. As for dis owning them you can never really dis own someone you care for ..basically its just something people say thinking that this can scare someone into stop doing what they are doing.. Doesnt work... I wish you luck.
2006-06-20 20:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by trudie_barraza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a heart to heart (when he's sober), tell him how much everyone wants to see the old him and how much he is missed, ask him to seek help. If he doesn't want the help or feels like nothing can change him, then it is in the best interest of you and your family to let him be....... Been there, done that....one the hardest decisions of my life. It is a disease, but you can't expect someone to change if they don't want to. Give it to God and let go.
2006-06-20 20:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Inquiring mind wants to know.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently stopped being like your brother about a year ago to be exact the thing i recommend is giving tough love maybe even join alinon
2006-06-20 20:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by CANDIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand wat u r goin thru...the only way to resolve this problem is to regain ur brothers confidence in life....he needs psychological help....and rehab as well.There are ppl who come out of rehab and return to the same old stuff but u need to keep a check...there are rehabs where u can keep him for yrs tll he changes...u need to know his friends circle and his source....try cutting off the source...ppl want to disown such ppl but it's ur own blood and it is difficult to disown suc ppl....have faith he will change but he needs the right direction....he needs a change he has to be very very busy to think of anyting else....u have to find his likeness and involve him....
2006-06-20 20:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Adi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks and treat him like a common criminal. Drug addicts can be dangerous when they need their next fix. I don't want to scare you but he may try anything. Move away so he doesn't find you. Its a bad situation. I feel sorry for you and your family.
2006-06-20 20:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't disown him, you love him, but you don't allow yourselves to be driven crazy about his problem, either. There's only so much you can do. He has to want help... then help is received by him better. He needs professional help & sometimes, you have to "let go & let God." Don't go thinking that just because you're his family, you're totally responsible for him and/or his well-being.
2006-06-20 20:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really care about this person help him the next time he comes home put sleeping pills in his food and buy a chain with a lock screw the bed to the floor and lock him to his bed, for about two weeks the drugs should be out of his system then talk to him while he is sober it might work!!! this is what i wish i did to my ex boyfriend
2006-06-20 20:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋