For the married guys to answers with regard to roving eyes?

Question

I am not talking just about young men. (Hint, I am 42) Why do some husbands feel the need to do this while you are right there and can obviously see this? I am personally not the jealous type, it's a matter of respect to me. This is not saying that a man would act on whatever it is he is feeling at that time. And that he is good in so many other ways. But it is quite demeaning to the woman and causes resentment. Especially if you are out with another couple and they too notice his roving eyes.

Answer 1

Don't take it personally. It is NOT against you or have anything to to with YOU. It is just a natural reaction.

Don't you look at other women too? I mean, aren't you interested in what they are wearing, how their hair style is, etc.?

It is natural to look at beauty and (like it or not) women are beautiful. So don't be so hard on him, if he is a open type of guy ask him what he finds attractive about the person. Maybe you'll learn more about him. I am sure he loves you and is thinking he is happy to be with you.

Answer 2

First of all not all of this is intentional,
for example I worked with a lot of women, if we were making a bed toghether sometimes I'd look up over the bed to say something to her and end up looking right down her shirt, I've had that happen so bad sometimes I finally tell the gal that she needs to stand upright when we're talking, (I worked as a CNA)
2nd of all men in general have a very base nature, the analogy to dogs is somewhat correct, when a gal walks by with everything hanging out its like a bleeding carcass limpinng by a wolf, even if the wolf's well fed and happy, the show gets his attention
This might be a good chance to talk about how a lot of lady's dress, if you don't want it looked at COVER IT UP,
that said, I agree even when the odd event happens we sould at leas attempt to be discreet and immediately apologize and try to stop looking, just because its natural, doesn't mean we should.
Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 3

I think you are a jealous person, more on the insecure side. but it also depends on how much looking is done. I look at other women when I'm with my wife. I even comment. Hell, sometimes she asks me to look. It does not mean that i love her any less or i want to be with the person. I real man know that beauty is within, and not the outside. i have a very good looking and well presentable wife, ad I love her very much, but that does not mean i can't look.
If you spend your time watching to see if your husband is looking at another woman, that make you more than insecure. It make you possessive.

Answer 4

I'm not a married man, but will answer this anyway.
Men are human, they enjoy beauty. Other women can not honestly tell me that they don't check out the men, even if their man is sitting right there.
My man appreciates beauty, and I don't mind, he comes home to me every night, not to them.
I don't worry when he looks, I would worry if he didn't look.
I even point out pretty women for him to look at, and he points out cute guys for me to look at.
If we are out with another couple and they notice and say something, then I just tell them that I trust him.

Answer 5

He's just not smooth or cool about it. I look, hell yes I look. I'm not blind. And there have been times Iv'e been caught.....few...but it happens 'specially if a woman is in a bikini bent over right in front of me.......wehat the hell do you expect a man to do.....go....yuck, look at that. That woman letting her breast hang out like that, that's just aweful....and then yet, you want him to look at you in a desirable way.....so, here's the deal, next time you're with friends and he lays his tongue on the floor looking at a woman, give him an elbow to the ribs......even do that all the other times you catch him. But, if a woman bends right in front of him....don't you dare stare at him to just see if he looks, that's wrong. Oh, and I never say anything.....my wife commented on a "fellas" muscular arms one day.......I've never said anything at all when I "notice".

Answer 6

All men has a habit of observing beautiful women. Few men are clever enough to hide it from others. Men who are overconfident look without fearing others.
If a lady is dressed properly without showing of her assets , I don't think men will have ''roving eyes''

Answer 7

Well when I was going out with my ex for a long time I noticed that I was not the only one that did it!
The fact was that I did it for her to see it and yet she did it without me knowing!
If you ask me I would rather do it out of respect for you so that you can SEE me doing it..if it HAS to happen..

please don't take it out of context and believe that this is my favourite passtime next to breathing while walking out with the missus. If he has a perpetual problem then you must confront him with it. Let him know how you feel.

I think it is disrespectful and conniving if you do it BEHIND someones back anyways.

Answer 8

My husband and I make a game out of it. It is natural and quite human to look at others. We always rate them. If he see's a woman that he likes the look of, he asks me, "Babe, what do you think of her?" I will tell him if I like the way she looks. In turn, I will ask him. It makes for some good laughs and no hurt feelings at all. We are in our 40's too.

Answer 9

Hi there do you remember your dating days when you dressed to get attention, to get noticed, well hun women are still doing it and, judging by your question it is still working, there is no harm in looking but he could make it less obvious when you are there with your friends, turn the tables hun have a look yourself, make it fun you will both have a good laugh about it, good luk

Answer 10

First of all, I'm not married yet but I do know that it has to do with infidelity. Infidelity begin with lust and come to completion when lust bear its fruit which is adultery in this case. Be careful and make sure his not having affair since he's doing it all the time.
not accusing him but be careful. Keep an eye open