why do people think blacks and whites shouldnt be in a relationship? why do they think it is wrong and nasty?

Question

i have a black boyfriend and im a white girl. we getted downed all the time. if its love its love why should color matter?

Answer 1

Let me tell you why. I am the product of a white mother and a black father. (And i love all the cute answers people are giving on here on a subject which they know nothing about.) Because nobody likes being half of anything i don't fit anywhere I can't relate with black people and i'm not fully white so i'm not fully accepted by them either, So before you have sex with your black boyfriend the next time think about that child you might bring into the world. And any such response as "oh don't listen to her she's just confused" Well do they have any reason to speak unless your mixed or in a interracial relationship shut the **** up.My advice get out of that relationship as fast as possible it's not love statistics show they don't work. Remember what i said

Answer 2

We would all like to think that color doesnt matter but the truth of the matter is that it does. We don't live in a color blind society and there are more steps that we as humans have to take before we come to that point where we accept everyone. Me personally I will admit that I am not a fan of interracial dating. Growing up I never had a problem with it. Going to an independent school and being one of the very few Black girls at my school I was used to seeing white girls and black boys. But once my brother married a white girl, my opinions changed. I can't really explain it. All I can say is that I am etremely pro-black. And by that I mean that I am for the uplifting of people of African decent. Not people understand that, but it is a known fact that Black are still apart of the social minority. Because of my "pro-Blackness" I tend to be jaded by interracial couples. It doesn't bother me as much as it used to (I guess cause I see it all the time in Nashville), but I can deinately say that I do find myself smiling when I see a Black couple walking hand in hand in public, because these days thats starting be be rare.

Answer 3

This country has a very ugly history. Most of the black people who are here are decended from slaves. Most slave owners were white. Obviously there is some deep seeded hatred there... on both sides of the line. Some people just have a harder time letting go of old hurts.

Couple that with the fact that many black people in this country are bitter over they way they are treated... by white people, by government, by employers... so they become bitter when they see other black people "mixing" with white people (the oppressors).

At the same time, there are many white people who feel that because of things like desegregation laws and civil rights laws, they have lost access to positions and other opportunities because they have been set aside for minorities.

The truth of the matter is the people in this country focus so much on color of the skin that they can't see that love is colorblind.

Answer 4

wow I feel you girl, for me its actually the opposite. I wonder the same thing and I guess I have felt that way from both whites and blacks. For me, I realized that a lot of caucasions/white people what ever you prefer, are very territorial, alot of people are still stuck in the past, so they still hold bitterness towards others. Some black people might feel just as territorial too. They are still stuck in the past that they got did wrong. As for white people I guess some just dont like blacks. I know exactly what your going through, I live in georgia and i get the same feeling. Some people just arent down with it but you cant care what everyone thinks all the time. The old generation needs to grow up just as the new does. IF anything you might just have some haters, especially black girls because they might be offended that a black guy "one of their kind" is dating a white girl. ITs all retarded, all that matters is that we are all human, we get our color from melanin anyway. God aint neva said "Thou shall never date a black man", or "though shall never date a white man"..so whatever. People need to snap out of it.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, in today's society it is still frowned upon when we see a black and white couple. Any other ethnicity would be fine just not black and white. It goes back to the old slave master and slave mentality. Some in the black communities feel black men and women should have had their fill of white people then. Along with the story that "good" black men tend to flock to white women faster that a sister after they become successful or en route. I personally come from a mixed background and in the 70's my parents were frowned upon and they are a black and brown couple. So, go figure.

Answer 6

With colour it does not matter since the bible does not say it's a sin or anything like that. It's different for homosexuals, which many people lump in with discrimination against gender or colour - homosexuality is a sin, whereas gender or colour is not a sin.

But gender, colour and sexuality are similar in that it has to do with the issue of identity. Culture is a strong identity factor, so that's why it's an issue with some people when people of different coloured skin get "down".

When we make our primary identity with Jesus, we can say we are all one in Christ (Gal 3:28) and so when that is our centre for identity, we are then free to say it doesn't matter whether we're black or white or asian (like me), we can marry interracially and not have issues of identity.

But it's not for everyone. Not everyone is so secure in themselves, let along secure in Christ. Give people time to get used to the boyfriend ofr girlfriend, and help them overcome the initial shock. It's normal for some people to feel it's a bit of a jump.

People should not marry people of the same sex, that is sin. But colour is NEVER an issue with God, so it should not be an issue for us.

Answer 7

Either they are old fashioned or they still can't accept the fact that everything is changing and that many blacks and whites are in relationships. This means that it's their problem not yours. If you think it's right and if thats what you believe in then what other people think shouldnt matter to you.

Answer 8

Me too honey. All I have to tell you is be happy with yourself, know what you have and how you feel about it, and honestly, ignore all the negative. If it doesn't phase you people can't touch you about it, and it's your life so just show an example by agreeing to disagree and silently respecting their ignorance. But I've also ran into plenty of people who think it's totally awesome and who get your back about it. I'd say make some friends like that. Those are best.

I've never heard anyone say it's nasty, but I know some blacks think that you're taking away their men.

Answer 9

Because they dont know what the hell theyre talking about...and some ppl really just dont want things to change...but they should really get over it and live therye own lives and not worry about who other ppl choose to be with..and For that mixed girl...my mom is white and my dad is black, and i love being mixed....you make it seem as if its the worst thing in the world...as for not fitting in maybe if u didnt care about it so damn much other ppl wouldnt either...i mean u dont evan seem to like urself so why should other ppl? i fit in perfectly with my black friends white friends hispanic friends whatever....and u do seem to be confused....if u really think that its wrong to bring mixed babies into the world being as though u are one......and plus most mixed kids come out Beautiful

Answer 10

I understand your delimma, but I have to ask this.

Is it perhaps they are not really staring at you in discust, maybe they are actually curious or think he's cute, think your cute...whatever. Ever thought maybe because of the situation, maybe their voying views are viewed as vile glares only because your mind sees it that way on defensive?

I know, it is not always about the stares. I am almost positive there is more to it than just that.

Maybe also it is the idea that those that are hatin', are really jealous? Perhaps they are not happy and when they see you smile or laugh or actually get treated well, they worry they are not getting the treatment?

I know not your problem, it was just a thought, maybe it'll help ya' sleep better tonight.