Im a very sexual woman but I dont get turned on by my husband anymore. Sex has become routine with us and its me that causes that because I keep thinking that if he's bored with sex he wont want to be intimate as much. I need some advice
2006-06-20 19:32:44 · 16 answers · asked by tx_angel_baby80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think I was clear in what I wrote. A part of me whats him to get bored because its gotten hard for me to be intimate with him. I try new things but I still have a hard time getting into it with him. I love my hubby and aside from the bedroom we have a wonderful marriage. What do I do to become more intrested in sex with him?
2006-06-20 19:42:54 · update #1
That's a tough one. Sometimes we men aren't so smart and perceptive about these things. Perhaps you should get out a piece of paper and write down all of the things that initially attracted you to your husband. Take your time and be honest. Don't just think about these things, write them down -- it makes a difference. Write down your most memorable sexual experiences with your husband, and be specific and detailed. This exercise should rejuvenate your feelings a little if not full out turn you on for him. Once you have the things about him you originally liked fresh in your head, you should ask yourself if there is anything your husband can do or try that would be more enticing to you sexually. Most men are up for the challenge. Also, ask him what he thinks of your sex life -- his answer may be surprising. Good luck.
2006-06-20 19:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Clayton B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If things have gotten routine and boring - then spice things up! Start doing it in different places - the couch, the floor, the table, etc. You can also maybe get some lingerie, light some candles, etc. Just do things that you normally don't do - it will be great for both of you.
Taking a nice weekend away somewhere - to a B&B or a hotel is also a great way to get away, spice things up, and have some fun.
2006-06-20 19:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop and ask yourself what it is that doesn't attract you to him anymore? Does he not go out of his way for you anymore? Does he not shower anymore? Once you figure this out, find a way to sit down with him and in a non-attacking way, ask him what he thinks about your sex life? Ask him what you could do to light the spark again. Then, once he has answered your questions, throw out a couple to him. Sometimes trying new things isn't the answer unless you are both in on it. If you masterbate, stop for a while since a woman tends to get numb. This will make you more sensitive to his touch. Good luck.
2006-06-20 21:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you can come up with a new way to do things it will make you look at your husband differently. I know that if my wife wants to do something different or is getting bored the best way for me to be motivated and perform better is for her to just be open and tell me. If he knows how much you love him he isn't gonna care.
2006-06-21 21:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by chris s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come up with some new things....try different places to do it-different times of the day-food is always fun. You need to stop worrying so much about if he is bored or not and start taking what you want....guys love women who take charge, so GO FOR IT!!!!!! and have fun.
2006-06-20 19:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by bimbojackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the thrill of the hunt that makes a man move. You have to make your man want that ***. Play with him, do something new ( tell him first, so no questions are asked) Tee shirt no panties and glide cross his lap until everything is good and wet.
2006-06-20 19:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to sit down and talk to your man. Let him know your worries. Get it all out on the table. If you bare your soul to him, he just might bare his. It might just be the key to putting the zing back into things. Complete honesty tends to do that!
2006-06-20 21:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking he'll be borded and have fun. If you don't have anything against oral or anal or his juices being on you or you grabing his penis....then hell.....go have some damn fun. Force yourself on him here and there. In the middle of the night, give him a reach around and the blow the man down....you have a mind, use it.
2006-06-20 19:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try role playing. It's the best and safest way to have sex with a "stranger".
2006-06-21 05:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try knew things such as positions, play toys, videos, even if ya want to get a little freaky add new people to the mix
2006-06-20 19:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by radar1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋