i have been dateing this great guy for about 2 mounths,he is every thing the i have evr wanted and he said i am purfect for him. he is 17 and i am 15. are relasonship is getting serious.... he proposed to me and i said yes. now my question is are we moving to fast and does it sound like it will last
he is allready talking about kids!! plese be truthful...i realy do love him
2006-06-20 19:14:31 · 6 answers · asked by rkk_24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm so happy for the two of you! Congratulations and I hope everything will work out for the best :)
Before you'll get into anything more serious and take it even further, may I you to do one thing? PLEASE wait until you turn 18 years old (in 3 years). I know it's a lot to ask, but to be on the safe side and for him not to get into jail on the charges of raping you. I know, both of you are all ready to start your lives together. You can use these 3 years to plan out where you'll live, work, how you'll take care of your kids, whether or not you'll need anyone else support at any time. As well as both of you can plan your wedding together, too :) Planning it step by step makes it that much perfect when the time comes and in the long run.
2006-06-20 19:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rkk,
Yes, you are moving way too fast. I'm not advising you to end the relationship, but I do advise you to cool your heels a little. Over 50% of marriages end in divorce, and speaking frankly, 2 months is not enough time to tell if you two are going to last.
Take it from someone who is waay old, it doesn't matter who you fall in love with - eventually, the mad, passionate feelings subside a bit and you are hopefully left with a deep, committed companionship/friendship/partnership. Whatever you call it, it is love, but it isn't what you have right now. The question is, that when those feelings subside, what will you two have left?
Also, keep in mind that the kind of girl a guy wants at 20 is way different from the girl the same guy wants at 30. Additionally, you have absolutely NO CLUE what life would be like when one or both of you works 8+ hours per day, has pressures, etc. Based on your ages, I assume you both live with your parents and are being supported.
It is a tough world out there and people change when they have responsibilities. They also change the minute they get married (my ex sure did.)
Anyway, good luck.
C
2006-06-21 02:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by chuck_jax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both still young - not even 18 yet, so talking about marriage might be a bit premature. You have also only been dating 2months - which is a very short period of time. You are still in the "honeymoon" period - where everything in your relationship is so great. Date eachother for a couple years and then see how you feel about marriage and kids. You need time to get to know eachother and really love eachother - then consider marriage and kids.
2006-06-21 02:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he will let you finish your schooling (however long that is -- I am including college), AND he will finish HIS as well (however long). If the relationship still stands by the time both of you finish, then get married and talk about children at that point. If you try ANYTHING before that time, you risk complicating BOTH of your lives.
2006-06-21 02:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Morpheus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion stay ingaged but set the date around 19. @ 18 you will go through a maturity change and it might not work. but as for now just enjoy your time wit him and see where it goes
2006-06-21 02:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by kidmccloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.... this kind of situation i did it before.... it's new start of life... juzt enjoy it because u do love him....
2006-06-21 02:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋