Is It Wrong...????

Question

My husband and I are seperated at the moment...but we are still VERY good friends...even though he has a girlfriend...I still love him so much and I know he still has feelings for me. Would it be wrong of me to sleep with him if that's what we wanted to do?? I mean he still is MY HUSBAND...so it's not illegal or anything. And we've been together for 4 YEARS so we know each other better than anyone else would know us. Is it wrong of me to WANT to sleep with him? Yes I know he has a girlfriend but he was MY HUSBAND first and we've been through SO MUCH together. No smart @$$ comments please...this is an honest question...I'm not trying to be perverted or anything, I just wanted other peoples opinions, that's all.

My husband and I have been together for a little over four years, three of which we've been married. They've only been together for 2 months....
And I would never be the girlfriend of the man cheated on me with his wife because I would NOT date someone until they are free to date...I would NOT date a married man.. My husband is still MINE and I love him so much. We have not had actual intercourse yet.

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with it and i would recommend doing it then letting it slip so his girlfriend would know he is a married man which makes her a home wrecking whore not you.. Stand your ground and take your man back home where he belongs

Answer 2

I understand your position, but you should end this relationship as soon as possible. I can see you really have feelings for your husband, but you really should not sleep with him if there is no reason for you to hope that he and you will get back together. Otherwise, you will just hurt yourself more and it will become even harder for you to let go of this relationship and to find the true match for you. I know that at this moment you feel like listening to your heart and you believe that nobody else is able to understand what is happening between you, how special your relationship has been and still is, but you just have to move on with your life. It would not be wrong to sleep with him because he already found a girlfriend, people do that all the time, but you would be wrong to yourself if you did. On the other hand, everybody deserves a second chance and you should not reject him if he has made serious efforts to change and to better himself, if he has tried to make up for the reasons why you got separated. If this is the case, then you should allow him to get close to you, but do not sleep with him unless you are really convinced that you too can still be a couple and that he has changed to to the feelings he has for you.

Answer 3

The question isn't is it wrong but how will that affect your future? In the most basic sense, you have to consider the risk of STDs when you sleep with any man that has another sex partner -- husband or not. Also, separated either means you're planning a divorce or your trying to work it out. If he has a girlfriend, that sounds like he's already moving on. If you can handle that -- and you simply want the comfort of a familiar body that you care about without having the false hope of reconciling -- then it's just sex to you. It's something you're doing because you want to and not because you're trying to hold onto him or win him back. Good luck and just make sure you're honest with yourself before you do anything.

Answer 4

It is wrong for him to cheat on his girlfriend, I know you are still married to him but he has made a commitment to another person and you are no longer living as man and wife. The only way this would be right is if he split from his girlfriend first. That way you would both be free to do as you please. While there is someone else on the scene then it is not the right thing for you to do, that would mean he has his cake and is eating it. He has to make a decision one way or another who he wants. How would you feel if you were the girlfriend and you discovered your boyfriend had been sleeping with you and his ex wife? Not very nice.

Answer 5

I feel that if you want to really sleep with him you have to tell him to loose the GF. It is not fair the the GF to be at home and not know what the hell is going on. Maybe talk it out with the husband and see if you two can make it work again. If it is just a one time thing....Don't do it. People only get hurt in the end. Especailly if you have children and they know whats going on. My parents did that to me and my sister when we were. They were seperated then were sleeping together, we had a small hope that they might get back together....BUT NO DICE ....Hurt like hell. So think about your actions. DOn't just do it cause you want some booty.

Answer 6

there is nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone whether you were married or lived together. you don't say how long you have been seperated. if its been a very short time, its possible that if your husband has a girlfriend it could be he had one while you were together or on a rebound himself. its usually normal with one year of seperation for either one or both to be with someone else. if its been a few months then its possible the other already had this person on the side and it could be a booty call as they say. it could also get complicated as if he is with someone else and they find out then you have problems. if he comes to you just to sleep with you and still stays with his present girlfriend, whats to say that he has been faithfull the whole time. use your head, but follow your heart. be careful you don't get caught up in a triangle. best of luck.

Answer 7

It's not wrong for you to want to sleep with your husband. Just keep in mind that he has a girlfriend - which means he is possibly sleeping with her too. If he ends up with her you are going to be hurt. You should talk to your husband and see what you both plan on doing. If you are both still in love - then get into counseling and make your marriage work.
What you are doing now - being indecisive, him having a gf - isn't healthy and it's not helping anything.

Answer 8

Yes he is still your husband and yes you have the right to do as the 2 of you please..... but, in all honesty I must say this... I have been in your shoes and sex clouds the issues..... I mean you 2 are separated for a reason... this needs to be dealt with first and foremost, before anything....... the 2 of you need to decide if you are gonna be married, divorced or what ever.... putting the chance of catching something aside, there is just to many things that could go wrong here.... what about his g/f ? does she know about you ? what would it do to her if her, so called b/f slept around ?? yes you are the wife, and yes he is YOUR husband, but this picture is just wrong on soooooo many levels........ all I ask is that you think about what I am saying ....... God bless

Answer 9

My feeling is that it's wrong when and if he has the other girlfriend, and how serious they are (are they exclusive, been together a long time, planning on getting married)? However, if he decides he still loves you, then he should first let go of the other gal, and you two can then be free to do as you please.

Answer 10

You are wrong. AND you will probley end up getting hurt in the end again! You say you still love him, but he has a girlfriend. Play hard to get if you want him back, and it sounds like you do...

He isn't interested in getting back with you if he still has a girlfriend and you are leaving your heart open to be easily wounded.

He may still BE your husband, but .......he is also sleeping with someone else!!!!!!!