I tend to find qualities of these guys attractive and that's why I want to be friends, but I don't explore whether there is chemistry because I am devoted to my husband. Yet my husband can go out with his buddies for the weekend and feel it is okay to touch other women because "he leaves it there." While I can't control what other people do, I can control my own actions and have never crossed the physical line like that. I'll admit I've had emotional attachments in the past, but I've learned from that and can be appreciative of a person without crossing lines. Am I just being too naive?
2006-06-20 18:20:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, you're being naive. your male friends want to **** you. your husband knows that because he's a man. do not trust your male friends. maybe if you at least acknowledge to your husband that you are aware that men are pigs, your husband will feel better. but never forget, your male friends want to **** you.
2006-06-20 18:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
entertaining company with men that are attracted to you may not be a problem, but it can create one, if you are happily married, you should not give any man that finds you attractive a friendship, because friendships are ment to be close all you need on one side is attraction and desire, on the other all you need are a few bad sercumstances and an affair is easily born... i'v been there...dont do it! be accaintances...only, no lunches, or coffees without the hubby! no talking alone, you are committed to your husband, keep it that way. all you need are a few insecurities about your marriage, husband or self, and another man that expresses desire toward you, and you have chemistry for intimacy. not good if your looking to avoid an affair.
as for your husband, either make it a point to tag along with the guys (for fun) dont be a drag or they wont want you there and it wont be personal at all, or let him know you dont like it, true you cant change him, but you can influence him thats what a wife does, good or bad, and you are influincing him toward other women, because you entertain company with other men...
2006-06-20 19:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a strong person then flirty relationships are fun and helps your self confidence. You can have fun with these relationships as long as you don't cross certain lines. If you love your husband and are devoted to him you also should respect his feelings. If those other relationships make him uncomfortable you should respect that and back off. If he loves you and respects you however he should know that these thing are not a threat to him. All women flirt so do men its harmless fun but all people cant deal with it. Its a very touchy subject ...........be careful. Do you feel threatened when he flirts of "touches" other women?? It goes both ways
2006-06-20 18:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by captpcb216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it has been said that even thinking of having a relationship with someone else is cheating. Having an emotional attachment to anyone who isn't your husband is wrong. Are you truely happy in your marriage? You should be seriously asking yourself this, ask your husband as well. Even touching other women intimatly is breaking your marriage vows. Maybe you shouldn't be married if your vows mean so little to you!
2006-06-20 18:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband need to talk.........maybe you both would be interested in swinging.
Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships.
There are several different styles of swinging which you may see in the swinging community. Some people may prefer not to be around when their partner is having sex with someone else ("closed swinging"), while others may insist on it ("open swinging"). The term "soft swinging" refers to trading partners just for the purposes of heavy petting and then switching back to one's primary partner for any actual sex. It might be valuable for you to think about whether there are any potential situations that you feel you would be more or less comfortable in, and discuss these with your partner.
It sounds like you "want" to cross the line, but if you choose to do it together......
2006-06-20 18:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
even though you haven't crossed the line so far doesn't mean you won't. Why keep playing with fire?? Think about what's more important to you. your marriage or risking something happening. You should respect your husband's feelings. If you didn't want him being around women who were attacted to him and he kept doing it anyway how would you feel?? probably pretty horrible and constantly feeling suspicious. i know i wouldn't want to live feeling that way.
2006-06-20 18:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by nicole g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here is a way to look at it. He knows you have a line waiting for him to mess up, wich puts alot of added pressure on him, cause I guarantee they are thinkin they would be better for you.
I am not sayin it is wrong what you have, I too have and want female freinds cause I hate most of my male freinds( and perspective) But i realize it is not good for my Love, and she deserves better. i allow her to be freinds with my female freinds, and people have intuition and can usually pick up on things if things are goin the wrong way. Just make sure they are freinds with him, don't force it, but do things together every now and again.
this is such a fatal flaw we as humans have.
2006-06-20 18:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Seerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see a problem here, some day you will go too far with this need to be noticed. You seem to starve for attention. The first time you get into a fight with your husband you will go to one of the other men for love. I smell a rat here.
2006-06-20 18:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by 4wheelerdude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do people like to be jealous over others? If so, don't expect trust to be an issue in your marriage. There will be no glue to hold it together.
2006-06-20 18:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I would go out and touch other men and leave it there and come back and try it again, what's good for the goose is good for the gander
2006-06-20 18:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋