My sister is 19 and a mother of 2 her youngest calls me mom what should I do??

Question

My 19 year old sister is a mother of 2 very beautiful boy's her youngest has been around me since the day he was born i watch him and take care of him all the time!! he's almost 1year old and he doesn't listen to anything his mother say's when he's in trouble or want's something he comes to me I take care of him and he's calling me mom??? I think it kinda hurts my sister's feelings but he doesnt even mind her. she's letting me get custody of him if I want in 3weeks but i'm only 14 and got a baby on the way with a 18 year old boyfriend what should I do??? I need help any good advice and not rude comments????

Answer 1

Correct the child every time and teach him, her to call you aunt.

Answer 2

I suggest that you still be there to help your sister and to support her but as for taking custody of him. I don't think it's even possible because your 14 and also like other people are saying this is in factor your sister's son she has to start taking better care of him. You have a lot to deal with, you need to worry about taking care of your baby that's on the way. I'm pretty sure that if your sister took care of the oldest then she should have no problem taking care of the youngest maybe when you get older and he still feels more connected to you then he does his own mother then you can take custody of him. But for now sweetheart take care of yourself and that precious child that's inside of you. Good Luck and I hope everything works out.

Answer 3

I was in a similar Being called Mom situation. As the child got older, she could differentiate between who Mom was. Even though she looks on me as a Mother figure, she calls me by my first name now. She also tends to take discipline from me better than her Mom. If her Mom and I are together, I am the one that she tends to turn to for discipline. I am not sure that at the age of 14 that legal custody can be allowed for you. The fact that you're pregnant as well could factor in. If she tries to sign custody of her child over to you at the age of 14, the courts may see her as an unfit mother and take both children away. Support your sister, but make her realize that she gave birth to these children and she is responsible for them. You can love them as an Aunt and always be in their life. Plus you taking on a child when you have one on the way could be a problem in your relationship with your child's father. When your baby is born, it will be time for the three of you to be a family and for your sister be an Aunt. Tell her to be strong and stick with motherhood. Good luck with your baby.

Answer 4

hey i kinda have ur same prob. exsept my sisters kids dont call me mom they just would rather stay with me instead of there mom and they will come 2 me when they get hurt or when they get in trouble they come 2 me but i wouldnt ever take custody of her kids they r hers u have ur baby on the way so when he calls u mom just tell him no mommy is over there (point to ur sister) im aunt (ur name) u can IM or E-mail me if u wanna talk my user name is little_dolphin_93 and its @ yahoo hope i helped a little

Answer 5

At your age, I would take care of your own. Your new baby will be all you need to work with. Alot of things will happen....they will all effect your life for better or worse. You may not always be with your babies Dad. And to have another baby to provide for will make life more complex. Plus, if tensions ever rise between you and your family, the baby may become a "gambling piece"...

Answer 6

As of custody, I say you don't because you already have a BIG responsibility on the way.. Your baby.. I suggest you take care of yourself before anyone else..

Answer 7

My first piece of advice is provide your sister a damage, she sounds drained and lower than pressure. attempt looking strategies to assist her out, with out stepping on her feet. I actually have a daughter. for a lengthy time period each thing replaced into Daddy. i replaced into Daddy, her Daddy replaced into Daddy, the lamp, the chair, the settee, my mothers and fathers, her filled animals, all Daddy. Now she knows the alterations in some names, yet is puzzled on others. a competent celebration is at the same time as she calls our canines "kitty". This baby will study better appropriate ultimately too. at the same time as she calls you "Mommy" element to her mom and say "it quite is Mommy" than element to your self and promises your self a diverse call. My baby calls her aunt by ability of her first call because her aunt continues to be in intense college, and that's less demanding for her to undergo in thoughts. So in any case, merely attempt to assist your sister out once you may. do not step on her feet. help the youngsters study new words, and relax... each body is gonna be ok.

Answer 8

NOT TO BE RUDE BUT YOUR PARENTS MUST BE GOING NUTS WITH YOU TWO !! YOU ARE STILL A CHID YOURSELF HUNNY, YOUR SISTER`S KIDS ARE HER KIDS AND SHE SHOULD START TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR HER KIDS AND NOT LAY IT ALL ON YOU, SEEMS TO ME YOU HAVE YOUR OWN PLATE FULL DEAR, WORRY ABOUT YOUR OWN LIFE AND YOUR BABY ON THE WAY. AS FAR AS THE KIDS CALLIN YOU MOMMY, JUST CORRECT THEM ON THAT AND POINT AT THEIR MOTHER AND TELL THEM TO CALL HER MOMMY, OR SAY THAT IS MOMMY, IM YOUR AUNT. MAN!! I FEEL FOR YA GIRL, WHERE`S YOUR PARENTS THROUGH OUT ALL THIS GOING ON ? AND I DO NOT BELIEVE ANY COURT WILL LEGALLY ALLOW A MINOR AS YOURSELF TO TAKE CUSTODY EITHER, ALMOST POSITIVE ON THAT ONE, SWEETIE YOU ARE A LIL GIRL YOURSELF.

Answer 9

you do not need to be taking on another child when you are going to have a HUGE resposibility to your own chid soon.. He calls you mom because you take care of him so much..When your sister starts taking care of him more or spends more time with him, he will start calling her mommy....My neice called myself, my sister and her step-mom (who is my other sister) mommy for a long time

Answer 10

well wow........14 and pregnant? well ur life..no offense. well tell him to call u aunt and not mom, just correct. and dont get custody! its ur sis's baby not urs! and ur only 14! 2 kids is 2 much! u still have school!