I am 21 years old i have had the same best friend for years and threw high school we use to fight over guys non stop and everytime i would break up with one she would end up going out with them shortly after, i recently got married (3yrs ago) and we lost touch well around christmas i got back in touch with her and our friendship is stronger than when in school the thing is the other day she told me that she didnt think my husband was right for me and i should leave him, do you think she is trying to steal him away? I am very happy with my hubby and we never fight so i dont understand what she's getting at when i asked her she didnt have an answer what do you think?
2006-06-20 17:45:52 · 25 answers · asked by Just_me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Actually i got married at 17 and i am sure it will last, my parents got married when they where 16 and they have been together 25 years!
2006-06-20 17:49:11 · update #1
It sounds like your friend might be jealous or have a rivalry thing with you. She should be happy for you if you and your husband are getting along well. She could just be one of those people who can't stand others being in a better position than her. Does SHE have a man in her life? If not, she could be feeling lonely and trying to get you to feel bad will get her some company in her misery. Don't let her do that to you. If you and your man are getting along fine, then maybe something isn't right in the relationship you have with HER. Don't let her get away with saying she didn't have an answer. She obviously said that for a reason. Make her tell you the truth and if she doesn't, she's probably not the best friend for you. And if it turns out she is sniffing around your man, then she DEFINITELY is not a true friend.
2006-06-20 17:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by destiny21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she is trying to steal him. Given her reputation of stealing your boyfriends in school, it sounds like she has an issue with you being happy. Or maybe she has jealousy problems. I think you need to tell her that your marriage is strong and you are not going to leave your husband. If she can't get it through her head after a serious talk about it, maybe it's time to say goodbye to her. You don't need her breaking up your marriage.
2006-06-21 00:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your experiences with her before, i think you should tell your husband about what she is so that he'll be aware of her. And if you can, try to avoid her. Don't let her ruin your happy married life.
Or help her look for a date so she can get busy with other things.
2006-06-21 00:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Merry Mae S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants what SHE feels is best for you...friends are like that sometimes.
On the other hand she could be jealous of what you have (happy marriage...possible family)...and she might not want you to be happy because she is not happy...or she might want a family.
Who really knows what anyone else is thinking???
Anyway...good luck!!!
2006-06-21 00:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she sounds a bit flakey. I also think you no longer need her as a friend. Especially since she doesnt have a logical answer to your question. I assume she's not married. If so, you probably dont have much in common with her anyway.
2006-06-21 00:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u said u r happily married...dat means there are no probms between u and ur husband....the imp thing is "belief" in urself,u husband and u relationship.........as long as u have these ingredients in ur relationship noone will eve be able to ruin ur relationship...talking about ur friend everyone has their own perspective or opinions...it may be that she thinks u got married at oung age an dats y she is saying so.....but "you" are the one who knows ur life,ur relaionship,ur husband and ur decissions better.....if u think ur marriage is a bliss the stick for it....don't let anyone's opinnion bother u....ur friend is also a human being and she ud be wrong.....expalin to her ur opinion about ur relationship and dat u know its good...if she is really ur good friend then trust me she won't say things like this again.....and lastly relax...everythings gonna be fine ok
god bless
keep smiling
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2006-06-21 01:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two easy explanations to this: she knows WHY your man is not right for you ( i.e= shes caught him cheating ) but she doesent want to tell you because you think he's so perfect that he WOULDENT cheat on you, or that she wants to steal your man.I would be carefull...do a little investigating and i hope you find out ok?
2006-06-21 00:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Hánnàh♥ [Hysteria] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-06-21 00:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Joe B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No friend should ever tell you that your husband isn't right for you. They should be there for you no matter what - not try to get you to divorce your spouse. You need to tell her that your marriage isn't up for discussion and that you and your hubby are in it for the long haul.
2006-06-21 00:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she IS your friend, she may not know what's best. As long as he is good to you, and you are happy with him, stay with him! Don't let a friend come between you and your husband.
2006-06-21 00:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by erenaes6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋