they say that modern women dont need to marry because they already have everything that they want..lots of money and great jobs..and properties as well..is it true?
but even if i have all the things i wanted..i still feel lonely? do i need to get married or do i need to overcome my loneliness by going on vacays or shoppings or doing things that i love most? help me...my family thinks that i should marry and marry early before its too late...but there's tonnes of things i still want to do before settling down..so...what to do?
2006-06-20 17:43:29 · 9 answers · asked by The apPrentice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can decide what you need. In my personal experience (mind you, I'm a guy) single people are often lonely, no matter how well their careers are going. However, married people are often bored, no matter how well their marriages are going.
If you have lots of things you want to do "before settling down", well, for heaven's sake go do them! Your parents may have their own regrets, and it would be wise to listen to and consider their opinions, but they're only that: opinions. They're not necessarily right for you or your situation.
Mind you, going on vacation, or shopping, or doing things that you love can be a lot more fun with a partner -- but you don't need to be married to that partner, do you? Go out and try new things, and meet some new folks, and surround yourself with the kind of people you can be emotionally involved with.
Besides, these days there's no such thing as "too late" to get married, unless you want to have kids in wedlock, and that still puts you in your early thirties before you need to start thinking about it. Go have fun, live your life, and if you're lonely, go meet some new people.
Besides, at the end of the day, meeting a new person when you're lonely is a lot easier than divorcing your spouse when you're bored.
2006-06-20 17:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am 48 and have been dating a woman my age who never married, never had kids and don't think she had too many serious relationships. She is profoundly lonely and sees me as her great white hope. She is beautiful and I dig her but she is in no shape to be the step mom to me and my 3 kids. Don't marry too soon and don't wait too long. How is that for an answer? Marry because you can't figure out how to go on without him. Stay single if you know you could go one without worrying about him too much in a few days.
But don't put off the love of your life just because you have a few more things to do. Maybe he shares your dreams and wants to do the same thing. If so, you have met the love of your life. Don't waste it. Few people ever find such a thing.
2006-06-21 00:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are lonely. You may have lots of money great jobs and properties but that is just stuff and does not bring true happiness. You dont have someone to enjoy or share it or your life with that is why it is so lonely. Vacations and shopping will not fill that void that you feel inside. That is just stuff that you have and want to accumulate but remember it is just material things and stuff and you cannot take it with you when you die. Love however is wonderful and fullfilling and brings you joy. It is someone to share everything and your life with and children too. Why don't you date for a while and have lots of fun and do things and take it slow then when you are ready get serious and find someone to marry.
2006-06-21 07:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one..... If you want to marry, then I agree that sooner is better as later may be never. But, one can feel more alone when they are married than when they are single. I am married (mostly happily) and I feel so alone everyday. I wish I could go on vacations or shopping....so it's all in what your heart really wants. Best wishes
2006-06-21 00:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not given to everyone to stay single. You may accomplish all you want and be as rich as you want, but the reality is that if you don't have anybody in your life to share it with, you have nothing. If you settle for just anybody: cute, muscular and etc, you have nothing. There's a time to get married and there a time to accomplish thing. I think you should get married but don't rush into it.
2006-06-21 00:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by junior's800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooo basically you're saying you have everything you want, but you don't have everything you want. Right.
2006-06-21 00:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have everything in the world but if you don't have someone to share it with then your left empty.
2006-06-21 00:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT MARRY FOR OTHERS.
MARRY FOR LOVE.
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE.
2006-06-21 00:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny i feel the same !
2006-06-21 00:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by rumahs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋