I'm stuck between 2 guys and I need help..I have a son by both guys but the thing is they both say they love me and want me back well my oldest sons daddy left me when I was 8 months pregnant for my best friend and he cheated on me with another friend and my new babies daddy was the one who wanted to marry me and have a family..I dont know what to do cause I love them both its just hard to pick which one right now..I'm afraid that if I choose my 2 year old daddy he will do the samething again but I know without a doubt the my new babies daddy would never cheat on me or hurt me...Please someone give me some advice I really need help on this one
2006-06-20 17:21:55 · 13 answers · asked by raeann0420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
quit getting pregnant and stop selling yourself short.
2006-06-20 17:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll just qoute from what you said " I'm afraid if I choose my 2 year old daddy he will do the samething again but i know without doubt the new baby's daddy would never cheat on me or hurt me" your second relationship offered you marriage knowing you and accepted your kid by the first relationship.... hope that will give you an idea on my opinion.
2006-06-21 00:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by rudolph d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie...you need to follow your heart. If it has been broken before by a cheater, who's to say it wouldn't happen again. The father of your new baby seems to love you and TRUELY care about you. You should evaluate both situations and see where you are happiest. Choose carefully though...you may not get another chance.
But if it is was me...I would choose the one who I love the most and who loves me and my kids completely...and I would pick the one who completed me and who I knew I couldn't live without. You will always have a semi-connection with either because of the child you have with them. But go with your heart and pick the one who you love the most and who loves all of you the most. Good Luck!!!!!
2006-06-21 00:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by jerseygirl1230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. Choose the new babies daddy. At least you won't have any doubts. Good luck.
2006-06-21 05:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, who's going to provide for the family? Who's more responsible, mature? Which of these men would be a better "role model" for the kids? Which one seems better with the kids? Which one treats YOU better? Which one are YOU more compatible with? Have better lines of communication with? Trust more? I would write down a "pro's and con's" table on a piece of paper and compare both men. That may give you a pretty good start to answering your question.
2006-06-21 00:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by testrun66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way my mom was with my dad is she would let him sly alot on the cheating...let me tell u i might only be 17 but i have ssen alot of failed marriages and i would tell u if they did it once with one friend they will do it again with another friend...some guys do change but he left u pregnant i think he aint worth it stick to the faith ful family guy unless he dont want ur two year old...if u want anymore advice i am told i give good advice and i want to be a counselor so let me help u ok...bye and lots of love
2006-06-21 00:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Frankie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who went through exactly what you went through with the 1st guy..she took him back and he did it again. Go with the "good guy"; EVERY woman and her children deserve a true man that will treat her right. sounds like your past the "oh he's a bad boy and wants me" phase of your life. Actions speak louder than words. I pick guy #2.
2006-06-21 00:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by makesuwonder7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only u can figure this out for yourself. u know each one of them. u know their flaws and their attributes. u know what u like about each one. and what u dont like about each one. this is something that u will just have to think about and decide on your own. because really no matter what anyone tells u to do, u will end up doing what u want anyway. trust yourself to make the right decision.
2006-06-21 00:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- this is Maury material. Ok, go for the nice guy- the one who one who wants to start a family- not the turd who screwed around on you. It's a no-brainer.
2006-06-21 00:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Foster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prove they have fathered your children, I would collect support from each of them, and marry neither.
Obviously neither has actually proved their worth to you.
Do you know the ole saying, "Actions speak louder than words"?
That's what you should be paying attention to....
Their actions to you and you babies......NOT their words!
2006-06-21 00:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the answer is obilious,the new baby daddy treats you right,forget the other
2006-06-21 00:25:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋