my husband just left me whats the best way to get closure?

Answer 1

When the judge slams his gavel down is kinda a finality.

You can start moving forward with new adventures in your life and he will move further to the back of your mind.
Sooooooooo get busy enjoying the new you !!!

Answer 2

Oh you poor lady, I am sorry. Although there may be a possibility he tries coming back sometime, you must do things to keep from going nuts, or becoming too depressed. Take each day one day at a time and do what you HAVE to do such as taking care of the children, keeping your chores up, keeping up whatever routines you did before, excluding the ones involving him, like catering to him.
Get a body pillow, get a manicure, eat ice cream, watch sad movies, keep plenty of tissue around--the point is, give yourself your own space to grieve. It's healthier than some advice I read here!! And, if he does come back, maybe you can let him in--but there are new rules as well as things you need to get off your chest. This is a necessary process--it's called healing. This can either be resolved together or without him, either way, it will take time. Improve yourself, regardless. Later, when you're ready, there will be a man who is worthy of your your love. I promise.

Answer 3

Have a good Cry, Talk to a close friend/ relative/minister. When my ex left for another woman the finalization of my divorce was helpful. Not sure if closure really ever comes. But life will go on and he will get whats coming to him.

Answer 4

First, recognize that when someone leaves a relationship, they're often not running away from their partner -- they're running away from boredom, from responsibility, or perhaps themselves.

Or perhaps from their partner, if it's a bad relationship.

So how do you cope with this? Time will help, and you're better off getting all your misery out now than trying to pretend you're not upset. Go out with your friends, even when you don't want to. Start eating better and get a routine of chores going, so that your life doesn't feel like it is going out of control.

Most importantly, recognize that it is more than likely the problem he was running from was inside him, not you, and so whatever short-term benefit he got from leaving you will soon be replaced by the kind of long-term misery that comes from knowing he made a huge mistake he can't take back.

And meanwhile, you have the freedom to start a new relationship, this time with the knowledge and experience you gained from all your years in the first one -- you'll make better choices, you'll take better care of yourself, and you'll understand that like most things, relationships can be fleeting and should be appreciated in the moment.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Keep yourself busy. Starts a hectic life. Get an additionnal job, go volunteer, fill your schedule. Because only time will heal and you don't want to spend that time thinking about him. Don't throw yourself out there to other guys tho just for the heck of it, you are more precious than that

Answer 6

be thankful and start a new life , It does get better just look on the bright side . Searching for a new love and the excitement of it all . This time pick one out that will worship you and respect you and treat you like a queen

Answer 7

Sorry to hear that my wife kicked me out for another man about 7 months ago, We were married for 10 years,
Closure you really don't time will heal you that's it, Hey the best thing i can tell you is get with you closest friend and have fun and enjoy your freedom. remember Karma is a ***** and he will get his, Ps the guy my wife kicked me out for, Dumped her and now she want's me back

Answer 8

get cha rocks off!!!! Busa Nutt! That will make tensions release from you mind and you can mentaly start moving on. Just don't become attached to the Nutt Bussa, co-dependancey is the last thing you need right now.

Answer 9

Pack up everything that reminds you of him, make sure that he has all of his crap, and then you can either put this stuff away in boxes until you are ready or get rid of it completly.
Have you a good cry, because that is going to help... get it all out, enjoy it, give yourself permission to cry. Take care of yourself, take your vitamins, exercise, eat healthy good foods, drink plenty of water and go get your hair done or your nails or even get a massage. I love that George Strait song "She Let Herself Go. You should listen to that song, and then do everything that jerk never wanted to do, go places, do things and have fun do the things that you always wanted to do.

Answer 10

if he truely just left you,then you will need much time to get the closure you need.he may decide he wants you back,and you will experience the guilt game.so just keep on with your life as it is,and get used to not having him around. every passing day will get easier to deal with. good luck.