We went through her nasty divorce, were really good friends. I always made sure her 3 kids got birthday gifts, Christmas presents and cards(and her). She had to switch to a different shift for family reasons but i CANNOT get her out of my head. I really think we could be great together. Now what can I do?
2006-06-20 16:55:59 · 16 answers · asked by tommy d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i hate to say this, and i know it's not what you want to hear, but you probably shouldnt act on it at all. being an office scenario, she could get you in all kinds of trouble, not to mention if she doesn't feel the same way, it'll always be awkward. plus, it will put her in a very hard place because you're her boss and she might be scared that you will treat her differently.
2006-06-20 16:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well worse things have happened. Do you have the ability to keep work at work and life seperate? If you can handle this, then I think you should move slowly. Send her an ecard, then move forward if she responds. Send flowers to her at home, in the card drop a note to meet you at a resturant you two like. Arrange to have a babysitter come by that same night. (Someone you both trust). Go out for a casual dinner, talk. Find out if shes got feelings for you. Don't come right out and lay it before her! You might scare her off or if you've known each other for a long long time and have been there for everything, maybe its time to come face to face with her and fess up. Don't mention work! She's just another employee right now.
You could get into some trouble with this situation. You are in control, do what you feel is right. Try not to do it during office hours! Good Luck!
2006-06-20 17:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by ebay_convert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not saying forget her or stay away from her, but i'd take a step back. don't act like you think you're too good now that you've been promoted, but now things have changed for a couple reasons. let her pursue you a bit, so she doesn't feel obligated because you're now the boss. also...i hate to say this but the really sticky situation can happen sometimes if she starts using your relationship for work priviledges(expecting favoritism). You want to see trouble on the job coming from all directions get into something like that sometime...oh man.
2006-06-20 17:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by RunningOnMT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out for dinner and let her know how u feel but dont be overbearing about it. u have to be ready for the possibility that she may not want a deeper relationship so assure her that u want to remain a part of her life regardless if thats what u do want and give her ample time to respond. she has just been thru a divorce and may not be ready but u do sound like a gem... u may have to be content to be a wonderful friend for now.. best wishes.
2006-06-20 17:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by ^_§|èëp¡ñg_^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her and explain that now that your her boss you make good money and think that if she wants you guys can be more than friends now but just remember NO ONE at work can know , and document your conversations with dates and time like a journal, so it can never come back to haunt you as sexual harrassment. you sound like a great guy if she dont want you i'm sure someone else does !! :-)
2006-06-20 17:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by transplanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh-oh. It is a very bad idea to mix business with pleasure. What if it doesn't work out and there's a nasty break-up? Then you will still have to be boss and employee. Not good.
If she no longer works for you, go for it. Your question is unclear.
2006-06-20 16:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to pursue a relationship with her, then make the necessary sacrifice and take a demotion so you won't be her boss any more. It's the only right thing to do.
2006-06-20 16:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Verb8mgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problem is your her boss now, and not her co-worker, so there may be some ethics code at where you work that says the boss is not allowed to date the people that work for them, so I would be very, very careful.
2006-06-20 16:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by shezdoni2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your job you will NOT pursue her or treat her any differently than your other subordinates. If you do, be prepared for a sexual harrassment law suit at worst and being fired at best.
2006-06-20 16:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by themainsail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she would want a raise!!!! kidding. watch out with work policys and all that stuff. it's kind of delicate, and you're her boss, that will be complicated... but if you really want to be with her, be cautious. good luck!!!
2006-06-20 17:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by anna karenina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋