Should you ever forgive a man that has cheated???

Answer 1

Never

Answer 2

Yes, you can...but only IF... and this is a BIG IF... Only if he is truly sorry, and has the want to change, and is willing to go to therapy to figure out why he cheated. He must consistently go, without you having to get on him about going.

I have been married for 13 years. In the beginning we were both young, and he cheated on me. I took him back because we had children together. He went though the counsiling, and realized what he lost.

I did separate from him. It was not easy for him, or I. Lastly, if he goes through all of the steps, and the counsiling, and dealing with the emotions of how much he has hurt you.......... you have to be willing to forgive him. Could you forgive him??

If the answer is no.. than I would advice to leave him. There is no right or wrong answer her.

Should you forgive a man who is not sorry? NOt willing to make things right? Absolutely not.

I would say to go to counsiling for the both of you, and then make that decision once you have had time to think clearly.

Best Wishes,

-barb

ps. Don't listen to what others say, because they don't know you, they can't live your life, and ultimately it is your decision. You will have lots of opinions from family and friends. They don't have to live your life, and they are not the ones sleeping in your bed at night.. Listen to your heart, and trust what your instincts tell you. My hub turned his life around, and is not the best husband and father ever.

Answer 3

Being cheated on HURTS. If you are married, YES, you should forgive him, EVEN IF HE DOESN"T ASK. Forgetting, on the other hand is impossible, but the worst thing you or he could do is bring it up again. Do discuss it, get it out of your system--Who? Why? Where? How many times? Do you love her? What does she do for you? Tell him how badly he hurt you and that you never want to feel like a fool again Ask him what made him want to go to another woman. Was it strictly sex? Some kind of escape? Or some macho notch under his belt thing? Ask if he was missing something emotional in his relationship with you. If he works with her or has to see her in a work-type environment, tell him he has to confront her and tell her it's over and it shouldn't have happened, but that it never will again because he hurt his wife and don't want to do that from here on out. Preferably he will or can do this in front of you.
Healing will take awhile if "the rules" are adhered to by you both. Again, don't bring it up ever after it it resolved. Go about your days as normal as possible. Revenge is a no-no. And, girl, keep your eyes and ears sharp and hopefully there will be no "next time".
Remember, too, that marriage takes two to make it and two to break it, so you have some self-examination to do as well. What is the primary complaint/s your man has when he confronts you? Work on those. We all have room for improvement, and just think--even if he never appreciates you, if you like yourself more you will have a happier and more fulfilling life. Men can't MAKE us happy. They can share in our happiness.

Answer 4

Forgiveness is often a misinterpreted word - forgiveness is not for him it is for you! Forgetting is something that is almost humanly impossible especially in matters of infidelity and trust. It is up to you what you do with the anger and the pain - any issue can be worked through providing both parties feel that there is something worth working on. Remember not to blame yourself for his mistakes! People can change!

Answer 5

It really, REALLY depends on the person and the situation. If he confessed to you, you might be able to work things out. The hardest part (for me) was accepting my pride being hurt. I knew my husband loved me, but he was very young when it happened. He confessed to me, wanting to come completely clean so we could "start over". That was 10 years ago and we're happily married and secure in our relationship now. Listen to your intuition. If you feel this was a one-time mistake and he's sincerely sorry and remorseful for his actions and you want to take him back, then do. But if he acts like it was no big deal and casually "promises" to never do it again, then think twice. Also keep in mind if it was just casual sex, a one-night-stand or if it was more of an emotional relationship going on as well (really bad). And consider who it was with... somebody he just met or an ex or a friend. If it was someone he knew well, especially if it was someone you both knew, beware, b/c that could happen again. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

you have to think twice. If it happened because of your own fault you have to correct yourself and forgive him. He may not cheat you again. If there's no fault in you don't ever forgive the person. just forget about him.

Answer 7

You can always forgive, but always be true to yourself. Your instict will tell you if you should give him another chance. Women can never forget. You have to ask yourself if that is something you can live with on you mind for the rest of your life or if you should just move on and try to find happiness elsewhere.

Answer 8

Forgive? Yes..... Forget what he did? No..Stay with him? No... Because even if you want to, you will never forget that he cheated and most likely will never fully trust him, constantly wondering if he will do it again.. ANd it's not worth that kind of pain

Answer 9

Only if you like being with someone who cheats. Why did he cheat in the first place? Maybe he wasn't completely satisfied with what he had, or maybe he just made a mistake and he will NEVER do it again. I wouldn't bet my money or my trust on the guy.

Answer 10

If he truely wants to change. It takes time and communication to bring back the trust. If a person cheats in marriage or a relationship there are usualy problems that need to be addressed

Answer 11

No,once a cheat always a cheat