My wife says she understands that I get lonely and encourages me to have friends. I found three good friends through Yahoo Im and enjoy a respected friendship where we only know eachother by our first names. I have trouble relating to males due to past trust issuses and all my friends are female eventhough I will talk to both sexes. In my personnal life I have no other friend other than my wife and she is getting jealous and demanded I end my friendships. She say "What is wrong with you that you seek friendship in other women, am I not enough for you?". Is she right, what do you think?
2006-06-20 16:26:50 · 19 answers · asked by Tom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is nothing wrong with having other friends, but your wife should come first. If she in uncomfortable with you talking to these women (which I don't blame her) then you should end the friendships. Try making some male friends online or you can try to talk to her about your friends. Let her know that you have been honest with them that he is married and that they respect that. Give her their screen names if she wants to talk to them.
You can either try to help her understand you are just friends with them and nothing more. The other option is to end the friendships and find new friends. One thing that shouldn't be happening is you talking to them over your wife - your wife should be your number one priority!
2006-06-20 16:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
For myself, I have always believed a person can have friends of both sexes. The problem, however, is not mine. It is yours. If your wife is hurt, and/or jealous, of your friendships with women, then you need to end them for the sake of your marriage. Give your wife more of your time and make sure she knows how much you love her. Maybe, eventually, she will feel more secure in your love and not be bothered if you have a friend that is female.
2006-06-20 16:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is wrong to have female friends because if its only over the net and there's nothing else to it, then there should be no problem. Women have jealousy issues. If my husband had female friends I would not mind due to the fact that I am the one who is married to him and he comes home to me every night. I believe your wife needs to realize that you are just friends and nothing else. She should talk to some of your friends and maybe y'all could all be friends. I relate better to men than women, that's why I try to find friends too. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 16:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your problem. Due to my past experiences (since birth & throughout young adulthood), I find the need stronger to relate to male friends rather than female friends... it's the need for important male role models to show they care & that they are trustworthy. My husband's feelings, however, are more important to me than having male friends on the internet etc, because he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, because he's my best friend & he matters the most.
2006-06-20 16:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand her concern, I find it hard to believe that you need to talk to other woman badly enough, to find on-line relationships. It is one thing, if you had a friend who happened to be a woman before you were married and you wanted to keep her as a friend. But, you say that you are lonely and need to talk to someone, if you are lonely then, you need to find a marriage counselor and find out where your marriage is lacking, and causing you to be lonely and looking for another woman's attention. Because that should not be happening in a healthy relationship, seriously. Good luck to you.
2006-06-20 16:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, but don't jump ahead and stay to your choice. Talk to her that you are only friends, If she really doesn't believe you, then u might have to choose who is more important to u. If you really want to prove it to her, show her some of your conversations on yahoo IM if u can. Maybe even show her the replys to this question
2006-06-21 06:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Isabelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are spending more time with your cyber-friends than you do with your wife, she has a right to be upset. If your wife has first place in your life, and you demonstrate that on a regular basis, your online friends will not be a threat to her.
2006-06-20 16:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a problem with it, then why is it even a question for you? SHE IS YOUR WIFE. What do you not get about that? If it's really that confusing for you, then answer this one question: Which is more important, these supposedly anonymous friends or your marriage?
For heaven's sake, stop whining and get your priorities in order.
2006-06-20 17:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by Verb8mgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 05:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have trust issues and think she can't trust reassure her she's the only speical person in your life and that your not looking for another soulmate because you find one in her and don't use it as a sleazy line do it from the heart with passion and she should believe you but if the woman you talk too don't know your married and in love you might have a problem
2006-06-20 16:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋