I want to surprise my sister with the wedding dress of her dreams!! I have the money; she doesn't. The dress is from the House of Versace and costs $2700. Plus it will be custom fitted to her! This is really out of her price range because she is going to school and only working part time. I just want her special day to be perfect and I have the money, so why not right? However, my sister is an independant woman. Don't get me wrong, she likes the expensive gifts I buy her; but only if it's on Christmas or her birthday. Do you think she will find this gesture insulting? I want it to be a surprise, so that's why I am asking for some unbiased(?) oppinions. Please don't be rude, I am not intending to come off as insulting in any way. Thanx.
2006-06-20 16:05:50 · 25 answers · asked by imjustmeandyourjustyou 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
P.S. I know it's the one she wants because I took her to try it on and she fell in love. Till she saw the price!lol. Since then she's been trying to find one that is cheaper that looks similar.
2006-06-20 16:17:28 · update #1
For the person that said ' don't make it about your money' or whatever, I personally find THAT comment insulting. If I wanted it to be all about MY money, why would I go to so much effort to try and make sure she's going to be as happy as she can in her dream dress? And she will be fitted for the dress after I buy it; if I do!So, no worries there!
2006-06-20 16:24:19 · update #2
Her future husband just purchased a GORGEOUS house, which is why she doesn't want to spend her money on the dress!!lol. As for me, I consider myself generous with my money, I work hard for it and y'all would probably attack me and laugh at me if you knew what I do. But I am now working with several charitable organizations as well, so I am not all about materialistic ****.
P.S. I got married before I got famous, and had no money for my dream dress so my dress only cost $200. I'm not saying the dress makes the marriage at all. I just want her to have her DREAM dress.
2006-06-20 22:16:39 · update #3
Her future husband just purchased a GORGEOUS house, which is why she doesn't want to spend her money on the dress!!lol. As for me, I consider myself generous with my money, I work hard for it and y'all would probably attack me and laugh at me if you knew what I do. But I am now working with several charitable organizations as well, so I am not all about materialistic ****.
P.S. I got married before I got famous, and had no money for my dream dress so my dress only cost $200. I'm not saying the dress makes the marriage at all. I just want her to have her DREAM dress.
2006-06-20 22:16:47 · update #4
Look,
Independent of not, buy it, give her a big hug and a kiss.... Say " I hope you dont get pissed!" and hand it to her.
I don't think it is insulting at all.... A few yrs ago my big brother calls me up to tell me we are gonna put together a vacation for his family, my big sister's family and my family. He tells me he found a beachfront house and tells me where I can view it on the Internet. Well I viewed it and also saw the price for rental.... I couldn't afford it ..... Not even the 1/3 of the price that I would have to pay. When I call him back and told him that I wouldn't be able to do it he let me in on the little secret that he bought it and that three of the ten bedrooms were mine!!!!!!!!!!! Oh sh*t, how on earth are you supposed to respond to that?
You said she loves it, get it!!!
2006-06-20 21:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How about if you tell her of your plan out to lunch before you go to Versace (before you make the purchase). It is so hard to say how someone will react to such a gift. A wedding is meant to be the first thing that a bride and groom do together as a couple and the choices should really be theirs.
I wanted to pick my own dress and some folks might think it was an insult to the husband that he can't provide (not me, but some people). It is easy to say "this is what I wanted to do for you - but I can also put the money toward your honeymoon or moving expenses" and let her tell you how she could most benefit from your extremely generous gift.
I personally would have a very hard time in my own mind justifying $2700 spent on a dress I would wear once. I spent about $150 on the dress for my wedding and it was lovely - we put our cash into our Alaskan Cruise Honeymoon!
2006-06-20 16:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it without discussing it with her first. Her wedding dress is just about the most important part of the ceremony and she may feel that you've taken the decision away from her. Just ask her if she would allow you to pay for the "dress of her dreams" and take her to the store where the Versace dress is. You can kind of steer her towards it and say, "You would look beautiful in this one!" If she likes and wants it, then get it for her. But if not, you tried. This is her wedding after all and she should get what she wants.
2006-06-20 16:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by NannyMcPhee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not insulted but I sure would be disapointed.
If you feel that generous you should take her shopping for the dress SHE WANTS and then pay for it. Half the fun is trying all the dresses on before you pick the one you want and then going to lunch. Were you never a girl?
And by the way, if you want to pay for the dress do it (after the shopping trip) and then never talk about it again. Don't make this about your money. THAT'S insulting. She doesn't want to be reminded for the rest of her marriage that you paid for the dress.
2006-06-20 16:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had already picked out the dress, I would not be insulted, but it's a waste to spend that much money on any dress. If you have so much money give a down payment on a house. It's more practical and more lasting.
2006-06-20 21:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by wiserlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would be insulted, but when you go to pick out your wedding dress it can be one of the most memorable experiences of your wedding. you get to try them on and have fun with it until you find that perfect one. If I were you I would tell my sister that I have a surprise for her and take to the dress shop and let her have the "fun" that it would be and let her pick out the dress that is perfect for her. Tell her that its not charity,but that it is your gift to her for her special day. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 16:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to buy it for her. Tell her that is your wedding present to her.
If she balks, then change your tactic and tell her that the purchase price is a loan, and she can pay it back when she gets "settled" in her new life.
If she still balks, then let it go, sometimes people want to do it all themselves and they have issues taking gifts from others.
You will just have to play it by ear, try several different ways of phrasing it and see which works for her.
2006-06-20 16:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know your sister better than we do, but if my sister could afford my perfect wedding dress and offered to buy it for me, or even just went out and bought it as a surprise then I'd appreciate it a lot :)
2006-06-20 16:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mummy of 2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's an independant woman, maybe you can tell her it's a loan. She can pay it back when she's able to. That way she can still have the dress of her dreams and not really feel beholden to you. Her pride can remain intact.
2006-06-20 16:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lil' Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would be stupid to be insulted and you are a wonderful sister for wanting to do that for her! It's her dream dress, i'm sure she would LOVE to have it. just tell her you wanted her wedding day to be prefect and wanted to make sure she had the dress of her dreams.
2006-06-20 16:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by Christina W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋