I plan on throwing my boyfriend out, i have tried numerous times to do so and he refuses to leave. I have tried many times to talk to him about how his behavior/actions affects the mood of my home he thinks he has no problems. My b/f smokes weed and works part time. I am the single parent of three and in college, i don't need this drama. If I get a restraining order will it have to constitute illegal behavior. My friend was denied a restraing order of her abusive husband once , so It makes me wonder what will happen for me.
2006-06-20 15:55:57 · 18 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to the courthouse.
Don't do what the Whopper said, you don't want him in jail do you? You gotta think about how bad it sucks before you send somebody to be there... Even if only for a week, it's terrible. I would have rather been dead than in the juvenile center, and I was only there for a short period of time.
2006-06-20 15:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by jeff_is_sexy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's on the lease/rental agreement, you have to evict him legally. Most libraries have the materials necessary and a librarian can help you find the information/books you need, if it's an issue of money. If you have the money, look into getting legal paperwork done for you. If he's not on the lease(and hasn't paid any "rent"), tell him he has to move. If he won't go, call the police and have him escorted off your property. If he tries anything after that, you can call the police again and use the documentation to get a restraining order.
2006-06-20 16:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by No one of consequence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a restraining order at your circuit clerks office. All you have to do is be in fear of your safety and the safety of your children and it will be granted to you, however, you cannot turn around and have contact with this man afterward. If you do, and you initiate the contact, you will be viewed as one of those women who are abused and go back. The legal system will tend to look at you as manipulative. If he contacts you after you take out the peace order, then you must call the police because he is in violation, even if he doesn't know about the peace order yet. The police will explain to him and probably let him go with a warning. You don't need the behavior of drug use of any kind around your children, it says to them that you condone it. Good Luck and Good for you for standing up for what you know to be right. YOU GO GIRL.
2006-06-20 16:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, having drugs in the house can get you an order, but usually it's called either a protection order, or a harassment order. Get him the hell out of there before you lose your kids because of his druggie a--. Do you own or rent? Is his name on the lease. Do you have a domestic violence place in your town--they'll know what kind of relief you qualify for, and will help you do the paperwork and go to court with you if it comes to that. DO something, even if you have to pack up your kids and leave. I know that's BS but you WILL end up losing the kids if this bum continues to do drugs in the house where they live. And you are SO right, you don't need the drama, neither do your kids, and you sure don't need this bum. Your local domestic violence place can help you get an attorney, too, maybe even pro bono.
2006-06-20 16:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has filed the order she shouldn't be in trouble if she chooses to break it--but she's making a huge mistake if she does. The restraining order was put into effect to protect her from this guy. The court system will not take her seriously if she intentionally puts herself in position to be near him.
2016-05-20 07:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can find the weed but if u call the cops on him about the weed they may just take u down cause its your house so go to the courts and tell them u want an or to evict your b/f and get a order of protection even if he never hit say u feel threaten and u have kids and u want protection he can verbally threaten u also look on line for domestic violence hotline and see what the say good luck in nyc they dont play with crap from b/f look up how your state handles situations liket his
2006-06-20 16:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a reason to get a restraining order. Like if he hits you or verbally abuses you. I know I had to get alot of them. If you want to throw him out, don't ask him to leave, tell him that you don't think this is gonna work and you would like him to leave. If he does not leave you can call the police. but if he is smoking weed there and you have kids, dcfs can and will take your kids from you.
2006-06-20 16:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by loreeann32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To obtained a restraining order against somebody, you have to prove to the court that your life and your childrens life is in danger. If you cannot do that, what you can do is call the police on him, and have them take him out. If you have several police reports. It will help you in court if you want to evict him. One of the reason for eviction could be that he is putting your and your kids health at risk. good luck
2006-06-20 16:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by balkis_sierra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy to hear you aren't putting up with it, my boyfriend used to smoke weed I made him choose between me or the weed. You only get what you settle for. As for the restraining order you have to go to a police station or courthouse and file papers for one, then get someone (the police or a friend) to deliver the subpoena to him.
2006-06-20 15:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Interpreted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say move out or when he's not home one day pack his stuff put it on the street and change the locks on your door take a day off and do this pretend your going to work or to school and get this done on a day you know he won't be home. or just move out with no warning but if you still want to get the restraining order go to the police station and talk to one of the cops and see what he or she says
2006-06-20 16:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋