2006-06-20 15:29:47 · 6 answers · asked by kitkat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just because he hasn't talked about marriage doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Each couple takes that marriage step at a different time - it might be a year or it might be 5years. If you are feeling that you are ready for marriage then you should talk to him about it or at least run the idea by him to see if thats what he wants too.
2006-06-20 15:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have different timelines in mind for marriage. My wife and I dated for about 2 years. She moved from one state to another with me. We then lived together there for just under a year and I proposed to her. I wanted to live together and see if we were compatible.
She had expectations that I would give her a ring when every major holiday came. As the holiday passed, she would suddenly get visibly upset with me because I didn't match her expectations.
Don't be obsessive about marriage. You definately need to talk and just see if that is what he has in mind and that he is serious about you. While women are usually interested in getting married and getting on with their lives, men usually like holding on to the non-married part of theirs.
As soon as the ring goes on the girls finger, a whole bunch of issues start coming related to the wedding....planning the wedding, religious classes/conversions, what flowers to get, types of cake to get, who to invite to the wedding...etc...etc... For a woman, this is extremely exciting...for a guy, it can get overwhelming and stressful.
I'd try and get a sense of where he stands on the issue of marriage and roughly what kind of a timeline he might have in mind or what he needs to know in order to be comfortable with the thought. See if he is in alignment with your thoughts. But don't let things drag on and on. One of my great buddies was dating a girl for like 10 years. She wanted to marry him, but he wouldn't commit. They lived together for about 3 years. She left him. I don't blame her.
Good luck,
2006-06-20 22:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, a year is not that long. I don't think that you can know someone well enough in a year to be able to decide on marriage...this is why our divorce rate is so high...people meet and get married then get to know each other then realize they hate each other. My advice, be patient....
2006-06-20 22:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just a planning 4 it just wait 4 the flow if he don't 1 u don't go down cause of 1 guy
2006-06-20 22:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by julian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's happy the way things are. But there's no reason you can't bring the subject up and talk to him about it.
2006-06-20 22:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by cliffinutah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a smart man, give him credit
2006-06-20 22:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by wilburcornish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋