I was in the pub and saw a bloke I knew was gay so I tried chatting him up, but he insisted he wasn't gay. I know he is though 'cos he told his friend who then told me as I didn't know any gay people so felt a bit lonely in the village. Anyway, me and my mates went to his brother's house afterwards. His brother told me that he was bi, just like me, and kissed me. Honestly, it was the best kiss I have ever had. Anyway, I reminded him that he had a girlfriend, then my mate (who's gay and who I'm seeing) walked in so we couldn't take it further. We stayed the night then went home. Next day, I saw him in the pub with his girlfriend. I talked to him and he said he was getting married in August. I was so upset. I do like him, I've always fancied him. When I found out his brother was gay I thought 'If only it was the other one' as he's better looking! I'm sure he likes me too, as he always used to talk to me in the street even though I don't actually know him well. What should I do?
2006-06-20 15:09:40 · 19 answers · asked by ©Wayne© 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Whoa people!! OK, let me clear a few things up.
1. I didn't want homophobics answering
2. The guy I'm seeing knows we're not exclusive, he's around when I need him and vice versa.
3. I don't consider myself a player as such, but I would like to go with a few people, male or female.
4. Maybe the guy who's getting married WAS worried he'd never kiss a guy so kissed me. He's not a bad lad, and the girl he's with seems great too. I reckon him finding out I liked men sparked something up inside and he acted on it, knowing I wouldn't reject him.
2006-06-22 14:41:21 · update #1
Weever guy - Sexuality is NOT a choice so please don't tell me to get 'help' for my unnatural attraction to the same sex.
Sstooc guy - I think you're spot on there. He needs to realise what it is HE wants most and not settle down with a woman because society says he should.
2006-06-22 14:44:32 · update #2
1 GROSS
2 dont try to have double lives
3 U and the guy have girlfriends so try to stop being bisexual
4 when you do confess
2006-06-20 15:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have GOT to decide what you want!
If you're dating someone already, why are you chatting up a bloke down the pub? And then kissing the guy you know is engaged? And it was all because you thought he was better looking that the gay brother?
Okay, I'm going to be a little harsh here.
Can you see how someone reading this story might find you to be obsessed with looks and not just looking for company, but looking for every man you can possibly sleep with? You can have fun... and you should... but do you have to be the most-loved person ever?
And how "Little Britain" is your life? The Only Gay in the Village...Believe me, I understand... everybody wants a community, people with whom they have something in common, but you have GOT to decide what you want.
Do you have an open relationship with the bloke you're dating? I doubt it if you stopped making out. Do you want to try to build a relationship with him? Are you willing to throw him away to pursue bi guy?
Does bi guy have an open and informed relationship with his fiancee? Do you know him well enough to know? Do you really want to be "the other man'? If he's going to come on to you when he's engaged, what chance does a relationship have to succeed?
I don't want to seem all judgemental on you, I just want you to realize there could be some horrific consequences.
If there's going to be anything further, it has to come from bi guy. Maybe he was suffering some pre-wedding jitters and afraid he may never kiss another man. Not to say you aren't the sexiest thing on two legs, but it could just be that you were convenient.
2006-06-20 23:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK too much drama. Let it go. He may have been just having cold feet at the moment. I mean it it not as though he had sex with you he just kissed you. Kissing is not the same as sex. Just chalk it up to experience and don't get all upset. If you want there to be a relationship with this guy he will not pursue you if you bust up his marriage plans. And for Gods sake let him discover his own sexuality before going at him like a ***** in heat. He may just be confused. If he is truly bi he may be marrying this girl so he can have a cover and he may still be hoping for something on the side but if you don't play that then just let him know privately. It is so gauche when someone kisses and tells.
2006-06-21 13:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's kind of amusing to see that the English don't use good English. I feel for you but I really don't know what to tell you other than to find someone else. There has to be other nice English blokes out there that don't have such a complicated circumstance.
2006-06-21 01:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is getting married stop going after him.You are being used as stop gap arrangement till August.His intensions does not appear to be good.You are being taken for a free ride.Part time lover,switching over to full time in August?Bad story.do not get trapped.Think several times
2006-06-21 02:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting married so he's made his choice. As much as it might upset you the right thing to do is to let him get on with his life, if it all doesn't work out then who knows?
2006-06-21 02:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by felicity_pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the mate along and stay with your partner. Don't be a player and end up getting played.
2006-06-20 23:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Store the memory of him away as a "what might've been" fantasy. Don't pursue it, there are several people to consider here - not just your own desires.
2006-06-21 16:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is some f**ked up s**t, well i think you should have a talk with him .talk to him, see if he loves his gf, and well if he does theres nothing that you can do and they should get married then, if he doesnt than you should try to convince him not to go through with the marriage....its just wrong, lying is always wrong and its meant to come out eventualy. honesty its the best way to go!!!
:)
2006-06-20 23:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by sexyashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING, get on with your own life, you sound like a whining, whinging housewife from the trailer just down the road. get on with your own life and put it where it belongs in the past and in your memory for any future reference. ok?
2006-06-20 22:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋