I am a sincere, dedicated man and always go out of way to help...but have never been loved. The girls whom I love, leave me...I am an average looking guy, what could be the problem...what are the prerequisite of love other than a loving heart?
2006-06-20 15:07:10 · 22 answers · asked by Arnie 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's easy to say, hey don't look for love, let it find you, but we are social animals. At our core, we crave companionship and let me tell you, until you've felt the physical sensation, the ache in your head and your heart and your gut of loniness you can't know how difficult it is to want a relationship and be unable to sustain one. Now that said that, I have to tell you, I believe that we all send out 'signals' if you will, that attract, and sometimes repel others. There may very well be some neediness going on here, and you might also be suffering form what I fondly refer to as "Gottahaveawoman" Syndrom. Take a good hard look at who you are, and with whom you're involving yourself . If you find they are in essence the same person, then reassess what you're looking for in a relationship. I have a rule about breaking the bad realtionship cycle, here it is. You know how when you meet a new person, and you get that feeling, that oooooh, I really want to get to know them better feeling, your heart begins to speed up, you get all excited, you know it? Ok, now ......RUN do not walk in the other direction, that connection you feel is just the same thing that hasn't worked in previous relationships. Take some time and do some work on you. Emotional work, none of that extreme fakeover stuff. Get yourself a good therapist and rediscover the wonderful person that you are as an individual. Once you begin to value yourself, others will value you and you should find that you begin to connect with people in more meaningful ways. Give it a try.
2006-06-29 10:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been elevating the faneuter? Come on, be honest.
I'm trying to tell you in the kindest way possible, dude, "neediness" is a turn off. Make a noise like King King,
right now! Just go out there and plow some field, and the mule will lick the salt right out of your hand, baby! What passes for love is what keeps guys from gettin' down. Take it true from me, the old guy. ----sincerely, UCSteve
2006-06-20 22:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by UCSteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain brother.I think its just your attracted to the wrong type of women.It other words they are not in line with what is best for you.SO even if you managed to marry one of these women you'd be miserable after a while.No sir I suggest you hold on.Shes just around the corner.Just keep walking towards that corner and your gonna run right into her.The only problem with a corner is that you can't see if anyone is coming on the other side,but believe me shes there,but if you stop pushing forward your not going to be at that corner she finally gets there.Be there or be square.
2006-07-01 00:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by mividacristiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is amazing how random life really is. How do you know who is right for you and how do you find the right person in the first place. Here is one clue. Go places you like, other people who like the same thing will be there waiting for you. Until they show, do what you enjoy and do not worry about it. Life is too short to wait for someone. Give your life to God and your own pleasures, let the other person find you. The world will support you most when you understand your own desires and fulfill them.
2006-06-20 23:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Deanrwhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, but just from reading your question, you sound like you have a very low self esteem and that you may possibly be very clingy. Maybe if you just let things happen instead of working so hard to make them happen, everything will eventually fall into place. Good luck!
2006-06-20 22:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by laurajc1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other person has to love you, too. There could be any number of reasons why things haven't worked out. I don't know you well enough to give an answer. Try asking your friends what they think. Perhaps you can meet someone on eHarmony.
2006-06-30 20:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by percolated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love only appears when you´re not looking for it. Trust me!! And don`t think there is something wrong with you, when the right person comes along she will accept you as you are and love you for it... So, no stress! Take it easy and good luck. May love find you
2006-06-21 07:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Carla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you too nice? Not that you don't have to be nice, but you don't want to be boring.
Just because they are not with you now, doesn't mean you were never loved. I have left people I have loved. Tolerance , situations etc.
Maybe my boyfriend loves me. But I don't see it. Love is action. If I don't see that he makes an effort or see any entusiasm, then I may tire of it. If we never did anything fun together, that isn't going to keep me around either.
2006-06-20 23:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by ridethestar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is different, they have different needs and different feelings so I wouldn't know the reason they leave you but I know thats it's probably not you. Some are not good with commitment and some jsut don't find you as the person they wan't to spend the rest of there life with. It's nothing agianst you, but it happens to everyone.
2006-06-30 22:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone love you. you might be trying to hard to get girls to love you. true love just happens. you can't plan it. why don't you jus sit back and njoy the friendships that you have and revel in the people that you know instead of focusing on the things you think you are doing wrong.. when love is meant to find you it will.
2006-06-20 22:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by fishforfrogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋