OK THIS IS THE STORY ME AND THIS GUY TALKED 4 ABOUT 4 YEARS OFF AND ON HE BROUGHT IT UP BUT HE SAID THAT THE GIRL SAID IT WASNT HIS, SO WE MOVED ON SO LIKE OUT THE BOX THE STORY HAS GOT DEEPER WE GOT IN2 A ARGUEMENT AND HE TOLD ME HE WASNT SURE IF IT WAS HER WHICH I DIDNT LIKE BECAUSE HE DIDNT TELL ME THAT, THEN HE TELLS ME HE HAS FEELING 4 HER, SO I WANNA KNOW IF I WAS WRONG 4 LEAVING HIM, I MEAN I FEEL STUPID BEING THERE 4 HIM N HIS TIME OF NEED THEN HE TELLS ME THIS. I TOLD HIM I THINK THE BEST THINK 4 HIM 2 DO IS BE WITH HER AND TAKE CARE OF THAT BABY
2006-06-20 14:03:54 · 6 answers · asked by ASHLEY S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you did the right thing. It is obvious he isn't over her and you don't want to deal with all his crap. Good luck and you will find someone who won't lie to you.
2006-06-20 14:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is telling you that he wants to get back with her. I would thank him for being honest and upfront. That is a big deal and be thankful that he did that!!
But, you need to leave this guy. He is having feelings for another girl while he is with you.
Saying that he feels he needs to be with that other woman just to be a good dad is not a good enough reason.
He can take care of the kid (if it is his) financially and be a part of the child's life without being with that other woman.
Please find yourself another man!!!
You need to do this for yourself!! If not, this is relationship will never go anywhere. You will always wonder if he is attracted to you. IF you stay with him, next time he might not have the strength to tell you the truth and he might cheat on you.
Good luck!!!!!
2006-06-20 14:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by sha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I feel really bad for you.Been their done that. One thing never ,no matter what, get between a dad and his child. The other woman ,well F-ck her..But It sounds like he still has a thing for her. YES LET HIM GO. And when he figures out he f_ed up, and lost the best thing in his life. You will already have a new life,no thanks to him.So, maybe he did you a favore. Don't ever wait around for a man to decide if he wants you or the X. if theirs a question, you don't want to wait for the answer. ( don't let him have his cake and eat it to) Peggy P.S. Ask him befre he throws both your lifes and relationship away. to make sure it's his child.
it's noble of him to be a dad to a child he know is not his. but don't let the x dictate his life. and mess up your relationship.. if he thinks he cold be the dad,than let him. if he's not ,but he don't know that,still let him. it won't hurt anything. and it will make 1 little child greatfull that someone cared. . your call. good luck, peggy
2006-06-20 14:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what you did...break up with him!!! He lied,took you for granted,and tells a different story later and hurts you even more. He can not be trusted and is immature you don't need or deserve such a selfish punk like him.Go one with your life and forget him,leave him in the past and build yourself a new future starting today.Good Luck!!!
2006-06-20 14:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like he is a bit confused and sort of lying, and unless those are things you want to put up with forever then leaving him was the best thing. What people fail to relaize is that most men usually don't change so unless you want problems like this popping up in your marriage, then letting him go is practically esential. And he does need to focus on the whole baby thing.
2006-06-20 14:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you did great! You handled it very well. If he has feeling for her, then he is just wasting your time and playing with your emotions. Who wants to be the Other Woman? Girl you deserve to have a man that ONLY has feelings for you. He has his family to attend to now. You must move on with your life.
2006-06-20 14:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋