LIFE HAS BEEN VERY HARD FOR ME OVER THE LAST 9 YEARS AND THINGS HAVEN'T GOT EASY FOR ME EITHER I LOST MY MOTHER AT A YOUNG AGE AND THEN 2 YEARS AFTER LOSSING HER I LOST MY GRANDFATHER WHO WAS LIKE A REAL FATHER TO ME NOW THAT I'M GROWN PROBLEMS SEEMS TO COME DAY AFTER DAY. WHAT I REALLY NEED SOLVED IS I'M IN LOVE BUT I'M SO AFFRAID OF BEING HURT AGAING THIS MAN MEANS THE WORLD TO ME OTHER THAN THE LORD WHICH COMES FIRST OVER ANY MAN BUT I STARTING TO WANT MORE OUT OF OUR RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE A BABY ON THE WAY AND I FEEL SOMEWHERE WE ARE ATTACH TO EACH OTHER BUT WHEN I ACT LIKE I WANT TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT GETTING MARRIED HE SHUT ME DOWN BUT IT'S BEEN OVER TIME THAT HE'S HURT ME BUT SHOULD I WANT THIS TO KEEP GOING OR SHOULD I PUT A STOP TO IT? PLEASE I NEED HELP!
2006-06-20 13:56:30 · 4 answers · asked by Tay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think the very first thing you need to do is to 'find yourself' and decide what you want in life, how you want yourself to be, how you're going to get there, and while making these decisions it would be a benefit if you had a very close, level headed friend who is not your boyfriend. Without first strengthening your own personal foundation for life, you are not equipped to make any progress with anyone else. Your letter says you've been through alot but you have not returned to or achieved a comfort level yet that allows you to make wise life decisions.
2006-06-20 14:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Do you not watch Maury? Or Dr. Phil? A baby - thats too bad because if he loved you he would be asking you every day to marry him! You are young and do not know yet that men are....jerks! I know this because I have lived many years. If you act like you could care less they will be all over you. If he doesn't want you now - he will not want you later. This relationship seems doomes. Cut your losses, get your family to help you raise your baby and move on to the next chapter of your life...but be smarter next time. Make sure a man loves you before you give him EVERYTHING! Save something for the special one! He will find you.
2006-06-20 14:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Linda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really talk to your pastor or someone like that who can help you with God's perspective on this, and also help with the issues from your childhood.
2006-06-20 13:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly agree with "daisy519" all the way!
2006-06-20 14:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋