how do you break up a father and a stepmom?

Question

a reallyno good *****

Answer 1

You don't! Grow up for God's sake!

Answer 2

you don't. It's your father's decision who he marries. You didn't get to choose your real mom either. Try and see what he likes/loves about her and try to see her as a human being instead of just "the stepmom" - and until then, show your father some respect and love by being kind and respectful to the woman he married. If she isn't all that - the truth will come out - but you will have "taken the high road" and if she's just someone who loves him and you and is doing her best - then give her/your dad and you a chance at making a family work. All families have problems and tension - not just "step" ones.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but you can't. It's ultimately your father's decision. No matter how much she treats him like crap or you.

My stepmother has bipolar or some crazy **** like that. She would constantly throw fits, pool balls, knives, chairs, pots, pans, food, she would knock over the 37" t.v., dent my precious camaro, dent my dad's car, and basically break anything she can get her hands on, and even try to start fights with me (she did scratch me for just talking to my dad! So I knocked her teeth out - I couldn't help it!) We all have our breaking points. The question you should ask is, "what can I do to make things better or easier between all of us?" If you still don't like your current situation, when you turn 18, simply move out like I did. I can't guarantee that'll be any funner than being with you parents. Bills and **** you know.

Dads don't really know whats good for them, it's all about testosterone or something. He just doesn't want to be alone; being alone is a very sad thing.

Answer 4

Your father's relationships are his own business; you wouldn't want him interfering with your relationships, would you?

Having said that: if your stepmom is really causing you a lot of grief, there are three good reasons for this that I can think of:

1. She's not actually a bad person, but she's not your real mom, and so you put everything she does in a bad light; this is fairly normal, and you'll outgrow it as soon as you realize your attitude is the problem.

2. She's not actually a bad person, but she doesn't understand how to treat you the way you want to be treated; this is common in step-relationships, because (and this may be hard for you to see) she knows that she isn't your real mom, and so she's confused about how she should be treating you. It's up to you to set and communicate boundaries to her -- for instance, you might tell her that if you have to do a chore, you want to hear it from your dad -- and up to her to learn to respect those boundaries. Remember, she can't learn them unless you set them AND communicate them, and don't move them around a lot, or she'll get confused.

3. She is a genuinely bad person; if this is the case here, you have my sympathy. We don't always pick the best people to fall in love with, and if your dad picked a raisin instead of a grape, it's up to him to figure it out. However, if she's abusing you in some fashion, tell your father how you feel. Don't say "I want you to get rid of her because..." -- just say "She does [whatever she does] to me, and it makes me feel [however it makes you feel] -- what should I do?" You're his daughter, and he's going to take care of you.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Watach the Perent Trap with Lindsay Lohan. LOL

Answer 6

Don't try to break them up.
Have you tried telling your dad that she bothers you? Because that is the first person you should have talked to, not us here on Y!Answers. But talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel.
While it may not make it any better, he will be more sensitive to how she treats you.

Answer 7

i really dont think u should instead u s hould decide what is it that u dont like about ur stepfather and talk to ur mother about this and have her help u find the solution so u wont feel the need to break them up nemore.

Answer 8

Your dad is the only one that can decide she is no good and end it.
It's your job to not try to be deceitful and maybe talk to your father about how you feel rather than playing it out behind his back.

Answer 9

If you find out the answer to thank one email me back. I wish I would have know the answer over 18 years ago.

Answer 10

Grow the F*** up for god sakes. Have you ever thought that your father is happy? Quit thinking of only you for once.