how do i make my husband notice me more?

Question

i have been married for 19 years to the same man. he was my dream man since i was about 8 yrs. old . but after all these years he has pulled away a little . could it be that i look older and less attractive ? is there anything knew to make him notice me? i would like male and female advice.

Answer 1

Get a hot boyfriend.

Answer 2

Since you two have been together so long you have become comfortable with each other. Make time for just you and him alone. Plan and keep a date night once or twice a week. Plan weekend getaways to just do things you both like. Take turns having all about me weekends. Get a makeover that not only makes you look good but also feel good. (It will show on the outside) Surprise him with a visit to his job with your new look and take him to lunch or dinner. You are as sexy as you feel. Live a little wear sexier underwear and clothing. If others take notice the compliment will boost your self esteem and self image.

You go girl.

Remember you are beautiful no matter what they say.

Answer 3

This is an easy one: ask him.

Honestly, the success of any long-term relationship depends on open and honest communication. If you're feeling neglected, it doesn't do any good to keep quiet about it, but it also doesn't do any good to say "I'm feeling neglected, stop it" -- unless, of course, he responds with "I'm sorry, what can I do to help you feel loved and attractive again?"

Your best bet is to cut to the chase: simply say "I've been feeling less loved and attractive than I used to, and I need your help to feel better." Either he'll pull further away (and you'll certainly know exactly where your partnershp stands), or he'll appreciate your honesty, and jump feet-first into setting things right.

Note to many of the other people answering: sex is not the long term answer to anything, no matter how much it might help in the short term.

Answer 4

Date nights!! Dress up for the occasion. It might seem awkward at first, but it'll be well worth the effort in the long run. Go to dinner, movie, bowling, baseball game, swimming,.... whatever. Do something fun. While you're out get to know each other all over again. You've both grown and changed over the years and so have your interests. Fall in love with one another again. During this process you'll communicate more and he'll notice things he hadn't in a long time. And so will you. I'm serious. Try to make time for the two of you to have fun together.

Answer 5

It is possible that age has made a difference, but more than likely it is more like monotony. Do you change things up or do you do the same things all the time? In your life and in bed. Everybody likes change a little in their life. The same things over and over gets boring. If you are looking for things to do in the bedroom. Try surprising him when comes home and be naked and waiting for him. Get a hotel room, in a nearby city or out of town. Cut your hair or dye it another color all together for a looks change. Mainly just try to change things around to get that spark going again. You also can ask him what he thinks too. Ask him what he fantasizes about and try to fulfill them. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Dream man since 8 years old? OMG has he had his eye on you since you were 8?! Yeah, maybe it's because your not 8, he likes em that young he should be in jail and you should get yourself a real man!

(BTW, I may have miss understood the question, but for future reference, you might want to be more clear in the situation when you mention an age like that!)

Answer 7

Try changing something about yourself... like your hair cut/color, something along those lines.

Also, after so many years of marriage, things become some kind of routine; change things a bit, do something together that you guys dint normally do or something that you might have done on a regular basis when you were younger but haven't in a long time. This should bring back memories and hopefully help him realize what/who he has YOU!

Answer 8

Go to the gym and get a physical tune-up.

Even if he is overweight now, go to the gym and started eating healthily like your life depended on it.

You know how the eat healthy -- the question is, are you at the point where you are willing to make the biggest investment of all -- in yourself.

If you start to look more physically svelte -- your husband could sit back but he knows you have some come uppance and other men will start winking at you.

You need to do you first -- then you can do your husband. :-).

Get your glow on!

Answer 9

Flirt with younger men right in front of him. Laugh really hard at their jokes, pay attention to them in public and be vocal about how hot younger guys are. You gotta make sure you look good though, otherwise you'll creep out the younger men. And don't do TOO young, that's creepy. Just make him jealous and maybe he'll have enough courage to come up to you and ask this very question. ONE of you has to be big enough to talk to the other one.

Answer 10

Go back to stage one, whatever you did to get him go back to doing it. All relationships get to that point, I have been there too.
However, The fire is not out, just getting low. Sizzle it up with some of the things you found exciting in the beginning. For whatever reason, we all fall into a rut when we stop trying. I am sure he still loves. But, it takes two to have a party, so be the one to get it started. Have Fun.

Answer 11

There's probably something to be said for making yourself look attractive. Make sure there aren't built-up conflicts (not resolved) between the two of you, that can cause a gap between you. Also make sure he's not looking at online porn or something (it seems to be common). Try reading His Needs Her Needs for a little marriage refresher. I know lots of couples who have read it and say it helped bring them closer. (I'm not necessarily thinking he's cheating or anything, I'm just say marriage can use a little help sometimes).