I've had a certain friend for a long time...we're talking over a decade here. Well lately she has been hanging out with a new friend ALL THE TIME. She never calls me, never text messages me...nothing. I have to initiate every conversation and think of something to say constantly. Its like everything is one sided. The sad thing is, I realized that she hasn't changed drastically and she isnt all of a sudden a bad friend. It has always been like that. But the last two months it has been really really annoying. I guess the only difference is that NOW, instead of not calling me and siting on her couch all day, now she is not calling me and going out with another person. feel really jealous of her new friend Since she hasn't really changed, would it be wrong of me to be mad about this situation?
2006-06-20 13:14:07 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds to me it's not that she's changed but you have. This new friend of hers has made you see the light and it's frustrating not only to feel the lose of an old friend, but perhaps you're a little frustrated with yourself for not having noticed her behavior before?
She IS ignoring you right now more than ever and you have a right to be angry about it. Many relationships are lop-sided but she's really forcing the load onto your shoulders.
Either way, go talk to her. Let her know how you feel. She's an old friend right? so talking to her should be easy.
If you decide you'd rather find a new friend then don't feel guilty about leaving her behind, she has someone who'll fill in nicely and you at least will be happy and have a new relationship to work on.
2006-06-20 13:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to be upset because she doesn't try to hang out or even talk.. What kind of friend is it to have new friends and not include the ones that have been in her life forever. I would be very pissed and jealous as well.... But don't worry I am sure you can find a better friend... :)
2006-06-20 20:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be unset. You've been there thru thick and thin and she kicks you to the curb. What a nerve. When her new friend gives her the brush off and she comes squirming back, remind her of how she treated you !!! Find yourself a true friend, people like her are users and you don't need them.
Good luck
2006-06-20 20:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be jealous but I don't know if it will do much good to get mad at her. You could try. Sometimes you have to drop these sorts of friendships because a one sided friendship isn't really a friendship.
2006-06-20 20:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it wouldn't be wrong for you to be mad because she is ignoring you....it wouldn't be wrong for you to be annoyed as well...it is her fault for choosing another friend over you....and ignoring you after that....it doesn't matter if her character changed or not.....her attitude and time with you did....gives you the right to be mad or annoyed....
2006-06-20 20:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋