Her daddy and I are both stay at home college students so we're around her all day, but she continually says please.. please... please... please.. etc.etc.etc. every time we tell her No on something and it's driving me absolutly bonkers! Thanks for the help.
2006-06-20 12:56:03 · 11 answers · asked by terpsichorepixie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't give in to her, but it usually ends in me yelling really loudly and threatening to put her in the corner, or take away toys etc.etc. I don't believe in spanking for such a small offence, now if she runs out into the road while traffic is coming that's a spanking offence IMO, I'd rather spank her than bury her, if you know what I mean. Thanks everyone for your help!
2006-06-20 14:58:05 · update #1
My four year old did that and it seemed that no matter what I did he had to say please. I began to ignore him. Eventually I realized that he was being stubborn and did not like me telling him no. I figured out what his buttons were...ie what he really liked and did not like. After he would start the please please please...I would say...(cause he loves fishing). Do you want to go fishing? or Do you want this instead? then stop saying please. However the more I showed him I got angry he would do it more. The attitude of it did not get to me and I was in control made him do it less. Also I had to be proactive. I knew what he would ask for ahead of time and already have things in place for him( to avoid the asking) Structure and routine helped. Eventually he stopped. All kids go thru phases too....and that seemed to be one of them for my 4yr old.
2006-06-20 13:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah I hate when that happens too. gets on my nerves so much that eventually I just leave the room, and if the kid follows me and I say no a few more times, either he gives up himself cuz he know I mean it after so many different experiences - he caught on, or I start ignoring him ( hes also a 4 year old - and I know how hard it is to ignore that - heh if you could do that successfully you wouldnt be asking the question - but I promise with practice you will learn to tune it out it will just take some getting used to and thats when the kid will also learn that after the 5th No he may as well give up) or I just pretend to be paying attention to his younger sister and that distracts him from the subject. but plse dont use spanking it will only get the kid more wired up and it is never the answer anyway (contrary to what all those people said - not to mention illegal )
2006-06-20 20:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she asks again she'll be in trouble, that she'll get a spanking and be sent to her room.
Then when she asks again, spank her, and send her to her room.
Repeat.
She'll get it after about 5 times.
Alternatively, tell her every time she asks you for something after you've said no, she loses a toy. Have a big box and toss it in there. It's a little slower, since kids tend to have alot of toys what with McDonalds et all, but after losing 50% of her toys, she'll get the message. Start with her favorites and work down.
2006-06-20 20:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her calmly that you said No, and that if she persists she will get a time out. Then follow thru, 4 minutes for her age.
2006-06-20 20:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to forget about it! Or change the subject. The best way to make a child quiet is to tell tham maybe.
2006-06-20 20:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by LexisB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that since you are college students and need the money that for each time she says please you are going to charge her $1.00. If she has no money and no allowance tell her that you will keep track of it so when she starts getting money it wil go to pay off her debt.
2006-06-20 20:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Todd S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pretty simple,, you don't ever give in after you told her no,, once they figure out they can't pester you into giving in they quit.
Not her problem,, you taught her that she could wear you down so now you have to teach her all over again what no means.
2006-06-20 20:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk her out for a treat then tell her not to ask anymore because of what u just did, or ground her if she keeps on asking.
2006-06-20 20:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Princess Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she knows at some point she will get a reaction to you no matter if its pos or neg. do you give into her eventually? is that why she says please 50,0000 times? ignore it. or dont give into it. try to redirect the behavior.
2006-06-20 20:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by irishgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she keeps saying it then she has to stay at her room, or just ignore him
2006-06-20 20:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋