What do you do to the 'man' who abandoned you and ur unborn baby?

Answer 1

Get a legal representatives settlement out of court for direct debit from his bank account to your for 50-70$ a week. This is enough to help but not enough to financially cripple him. Then when this is assured by the threat of further legal action if he misses up to 4 payments then move on in your life and build a new one. And though your child that you were meant to have together may have been a mistake pour your love into that child, make that mistake a thing which will tower over the greatest things you've done in your life so that you can be proud of everything you've achieved and regret will never haunt you.
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Honestly though, if i ruled the world men who do that would be put into forced work for the 9 months and live in a type of prison but the money from the labour would go to you completely. Then freed but 40% of his wages from 0-18 would go to you and the child. This is strict but disciplined measures should be enforced by responsible men to enforce discipline on irresponsible boys.

Answer 2

Take him to court and get child support. There are groups that will help you find him if you don't know where he is. He may not have to be there physically or emotionally, but he does have a legal financial responsibility.

On the other hand, if he does support the baby financially, then he has the legal right to visitation. You might be better off just moving on. Someday you'll meet a nice MAN who is ready for responsiblity and will love both of you.

My son's Dad is not a deadbeat, by any means, but I'm very blessed to have a husband who has committed to being a family with us. It will be okay down the road. You'll see.

Answer 3

When the baby is born, get a paternity test taken. Not trying to offend but it will provide undeniable proof that the baby is his. Then sue for child support if it is apparent he wants no part of being a father.

Then you take care of your child. Be the best parent you can be. Then maybe someday you'll find a man who will love you and your child no matter who the father is and you don't have to think about that jerk ever again.

Answer 4

Forgive him, but never trust him again. Be sure to be married before you get pregnant in the future (that is if you were not). If you were married, then make sure that you get child support.

If you love your baby, then you should put the baby up for adoption in order to give that child a better chance in life with both a mother and a father. It is the most selfless thing you can do for your child. If you try and care for the child yourself, then most likely you will end up in poverty as happens too often to single mothers.

If you do not forgive him (remember that forgive does not mean trusting), then the only person who will suffer is you. The anger and resentment will destroy your ability to enjoy life and your ability to create future loving relationships with others.

Make sure that you include God in your life to help you through this difficult time.

For a step by step process on how to forgive, go to the following website:

http://www.ehow.com/how_4415_forgive.html

Answer 5

What do you want to do?

Getting him back will only remind you that he left.

Letting him go will only make you wonder where he is and if he will be back.

As for the baby, that is a decision you will have to make for yourself.

If you want to be a single parent, divorce him. You are having his baby. That qualifies you for a divorce. Seek sole custody and try and move on.

Don't become vindictive. Vengeance is not all it is cracked up to be and unless you kill everyone he knows it will backfire on you, and I don't tink you want to kill your child who might learn everything you have done.

Hold your tongue and act in your best interest. Look after yourself and the child. That will keep you more than busy.

Children grow up. You have maybe eighteen years.

You want to do something to him. Make sure the child grows up a better person than he was. That will give him a constant reminder of what he walked out on.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Nothing. He is not worth the energy it took you to write that question. You have a more important task now. You have to make sure that little baby feels so much love that he/she is never wistful over the abandonment.

Of course, it is natural to be bitter right now. No one faults you for that. Remember, though, that those bitter feelings are not hurting the "man" who left. They are hurting YOU! Anger, bitterness, and envy only harm the person who harbors them. Put that aside as quickly as possible, and think about the rest of your life with that little angel who will soon rest in your arms!

Answer 7

when you find him he will say it's not his.get a DNA test.to do this get a lawyer or legal aid to advise you what to do.a man, oops, i mean loser boy hasn't grown up mentally. you don't need him around because he would be like having another child to raise.BUT, take him to court so he will make child support payments. most states garnish the father's wages and the support is mailed to you.

Answer 8

Track him down and take his *** to court. You can have him arrested for abandonment as well. Make sure you get a child support order.

Answer 9

what do i do.well it might sound so easy to say but i know it's hard when your in that kind of situation.first thing i will do is show hI'm that your more like man than he is.take care of your child with or without him.make him fell that his nothing but a **** that need to flash and wipe it good.im sure there always someone will help when this kind of situation comes.your friends,parent and anybody.always remember two wrong doesn't make it right.so don't do thing you that's wrong.

Answer 10

If you live in a small town, write to your local newspaper. The loser would just love to see his name in the paper, I'm sure! If you live in a big city, take some legal action...which you can also do in a small town. Tell his friends if you can reach them, write letters to his job, (if the punk has one). If you've got money, rent a billboard.