how many mothers sleep with a baby at your side?

Question

i just want to know.

Answer 1

I did for almost 4 years...by choice.

Babies do not have to 'learn' to sleep on their own. In fact it is one of the cruelest misconceptions of Western Parenting.

"According to Jean Liedloff, the continuum concept is the idea that in order to achieve optimal physical, mental and emotional development, human beings — especially babies — require the kind of experience to which our species adapted during the long process of our evolution. For an infant, these include such experiences as...

* constant physical contact with his mother (or another familiar caregiver as needed) from birth;
* sleeping in his parents' bed, in constant physical contact, until he leaves of his own volition (often about two years);
* breastfeeding "on cue" — nursing in response to his own body's signals;
* being constantly carried in arms or otherwise in contact with someone, usually his mother, and allowed to observe (or nurse, or sleep) while the person carrying him goes about his or her business — until the infant begins creeping, then crawling on his own impulse, usually at six to eight months;
* having caregivers immediately respond to his signals (squirming, crying, etc.), without judgment, displeasure, or invalidation of his needs, yet showing no undue concern nor making him the constant center of attention;
* sensing (and fulfilling) his elders' expectations that he is innately social and cooperative and has strong self-preservation instincts, and that he is welcome and worthy. "

Answer 2

I did this with my daughter. I breast-fed her, and it was much more convenient to have her in the bed with me. However, I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND THIS TO ANYONE. You or the child's father could easily roll over on your baby or smother him/her with the blankets. I am a very light sleeper who doesn't move around much, so I felt comfortable doing this, but it is most definately not for everyone.

If you are asking this question because you are considering this as an option, I can only tell you that you are the only one who would really know if this is the right choice for you and your baby. Please take this seriously...after all, there are other options, like keeping the child by your bedside in a cradle or playpen.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Not me. I CANT sleep with her...too nervous. I tried when she was first born, cause she slept the best that way, but I didnt sleep and neither did by hubby. We realized she would sleep in her cradle swing, so we started putting her in there. Has worked great, but she cant sleep in it forever. She is 5 months now and has been sleeping in it without it turned on. We are not trying to put her down in the crib. Wish us luck!

Answer 4

With my two boys...never during infancy. I was too scared I'd roll over on them. Plus, my husband and I enjoy our bedroom as ours...no kids allowed! (Honestly, it's the only quiet place in the house most of the time, lol) HOWEVER, my now 2 1/2 year old has taken to going to bed in our bed at night. Most night's it's fine...my husband works nights. On the weekends though, it's a hassle because we want to get on the computer, watch movies, etc. and we can't do that with him in here...too much stimulation, and he won't sleep. We just have to lie in the dark with him for as long as it takes to go to sleep. GRRRR

Answer 5

My son has been in our family bed for 2 1/2 years. Before we decided on the family bed we consulted our pediatrician who said it is safe as long as you dont get drunk to the point where you lose awareness or blackout. It is safe otherwise and completely normal in several cultures that don't have the luxury of having more than one bedroom.

We decided on the family bed as part of our committment to attachment parenting -- which we have the luxury of doing. It would be difficult on couples who have to wake up early to go to work and do childcare and need to stick to a schedule (or have multiple kids).

It is not easy as training them to sleep in their crib which allows you more free time and to schedule your time.

My dad worried that we might make a sissy having him sleep with us, but our son is a confident 100% boy, who is cheerful and charming and right on track developmentally.

Answer 6

children are more effective in all likelihood to roll onto their abdomen if on their facet. My daughter spit up for all time and had terrible reflux. What we ended up doing became letting her sleep in her motor vehicle seat, which became beside the settee I slept on in this time, until eventually she became more effective positive (about 6 months of age). That way she became nonetheless on her decrease back, yet sitting up. She had no difficulty falling asleep. We positioned her blankets less than her and that padded it properly. i'd provide this a try. the element about SIDS is that there are exceptions to each and each rule. What analyze has got here across is there have been a lot less SIDS prevalence in little ones that sleep on their backs as antagonistic to different approaches. is this going to end all deaths in napping little ones? No. even if that is proved to be safer and that is what you need to save in recommendations. i'd try the vehicle seat beside your mattress/settee/whereever you're or you are able to prop up one facet of the mattress contained in the crib with books or a pillow (less than the mattress) to boost the proper of the mattress. that is nice too. good success!

Answer 7

My toddler still sleeps with me. It's so nice waking up in the morning and seeing her smiling face!! She has her own bed, and she has talked about sleeping there, but so far we're all happy with her sleeping in bed with us. (3 of my 4 older kids also slept with us...) I *know* she'll move when she's ready. (And I'm too paranoid :-) to let babies sleep elsewhere; I'd be worrying about SIDS or a fire!!)

Answer 8

I do, my son is now 10 months old. I just started putting him in his crib and he loves that too, never had trouble with transitioning to independent sleeping...He is a good baby.

Answer 9

I did occasionally when i lil girl was a baby...but now that shes 2 she wont sleep unless shes in the bed with me.
I think she feels more secure bcos she likes to snuggle up to me.

Answer 10

I sleep with a 3yr old on one side and a 5 yr old on the other side almost every night.

Answer 11

I sleep with my baby in his bassinet next to my bed... During the day he is on his crib and I keep an eye on him through the monitor or go personally...