I'm very well-off financially, but I have seen with a few of my friends how everything turned ugly with their spouses when they got divorced. It seemed a match made in heaven but it wasn't. And I don't want this to happen to me. I mean, suppose it's over and I have to share my fortune with her? I wouldn't like that.
2006-06-20 12:29:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would not think that way. just tell her that this is just in case things do not work out. i mean she did not help you earn any of it yet so why should she get if things down the road go bad. if she loves you then she will understand
2006-06-20 12:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by natasha b 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should definitely have her sign a pre-nup. There may be confused and hurt feelings on her and her families side; but it will protect you financially in the end if things don't magically work out. If you want to make her feel better, put a decent sum into the pre-nup to help her out financially after the divorce (god forbid!). That way she can't take everything that you own and she won't feel like she is being left out in the cold before she even marries you.
2006-06-20 12:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by sylvergyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I have struggled with asking for one myself. I want my boyfriend to understand that I love him and this piece of paper is not meant to say that I'm expecting it to end badly. I think the pre-nup should protect both parties, anyway. I mean suppose you lost everything but your spouse earned millions, and the pre-nup only protected you? Also, I think the pre-nup could be considered null & void in the case of, say, abuse or infidelity. If my spouse cheated on me, or I on him, I think the cuckolded partner would have every right to sue for some compensation. But, as unromantic as it is, it does not mean you don't love her.
2006-06-21 11:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by BabyBear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a risk period! But when you get married you should be absolutely crazy about her and the feeling should be mutual.
So in my eyes a prenup is setting yourself up for failure...You really shouldn't marry someone that you are not sure how they would react if things went sour you guys should know eachother like the back of your own hands. It's a risk and if it didn't work out and you guys are both civil adults I'm sure you guys could come up with a comprimise.
How much do you really love your partner would this offend her if you ask? I think I'd be a little hurt!
2006-06-20 12:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Justasking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take that as a huge slap in the face honestly. The reason being that I would take it like you were setting us up to fail, even letting a hint of doubt about our choice to make it work through thick and thin...you are saying that you will eventually divorce me if I don't hold up to your standard. If you go into a marriage with thoughts of divorce in your future you have already doomed yourself. Instead why not both go in saying to yourselves that we WILL make this happen, we will put eachother first, and by God's love and mercy we WILL grow old together and enjoy the fortune that God has bestowed on us. Why not go in with that attitude? I think if more people did, there would be less divorce. My advice? Don't marry anyone as long as you have this sort of "stinking thinking".
2006-06-20 14:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you it wouldn't matter. If you are more comfortable having one she should be ok with that, maybe for no other reason than to prove to you that she is not just after your money.
2006-06-20 12:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think so, i mean if she is really in to it for love then the money side really shouldnt matter, you could both talk about what does to who just in case
2006-06-20 12:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but i would discuss the conditions with her first or else she may feel you don't trust her, if you discuss things you would both want in the agreement then i don't think it would bother her at all if she really loves you.
2006-06-20 18:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to ask her... she has the right to be offended...
depends on how demanding it is...
2006-06-20 13:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pre-nups are so ridiculous, man...........
2006-06-20 12:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋