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He's done this twice. My husband has been talking a lot with my sister since she came to visit with us. They obviously have a great time talking to each other. I am concerned however, because on father's day, around 11:45pm, he went walking with her on the beach without me. We had just had a wonderful evening, and I told him that I was too tired to go walking, I am four months pregnant with twins, and it's been a little complicated. He assured me that he was not going, and for me not to worry. Later on that night, he decided to go with my sister and my daughter down to the pool to see if the tiki bar was still open. That is when he must have decided to go walking down to the beach with her. He did not even tell me when he got back to the suite, I just had the feeling I should ask. Then and only then, is when I found out. Along with him calling me her name, and telling me he wished she could live with us, and telling me that all of this is petty stuff, What would you do?

2006-06-20 12:26:16 · 16 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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forgive him?...hell no......u need to sit down with him and tell him EXACTLY how you feel about him and your sister...that does not sound right to me..something is going on ...and you need to handle it.

Here you are four months pregnant with HIS babies and he can't even remember YOUR NAME when she is around?!!!!...oh hell no..he is infatuated with your sister or they are already having an affair on the low....NO TRUE MAN WHO LOVES HIS WIFE WILL EVER CALL HER BY ANOTHER WOMAN NAME...EVER!!..

to me that sounds like he got TASHA on the brain instead of you and your pregnancy and its complications.......and you don't need that extra stress right now worrying about this right now....i say sit them both down and get to the bottom of this NOW!!....
and on top of that he called you tasha more than once?!!!..and he wants her to LIVE with you guys?!!!..oh no he wants to have his cake and eat it too.....if you choose to let her live with you i hope you are ready for some serious heartbreak...i mean i hate to say it but you did put this situation out here , looking for opinions..so if i sound to harsh sorry..but i dont believe in sugarcoating words for anybody.........

omg ..i feel sorry for you..here you are pregnant with TWINS and your husband calling you by your sisters name....its not like yall siemese twins so he can't have that excuse......

something is up ...and you need to find out for your own peace of mind..how...well that depends on your temperent..me im on fire just thinking how i would feel if i were in your shoes..so im in no position to say what i TRULY want to say ...(i can't write it on here)....lol

hope you do what you have to do for your sake and the babies....

2006-06-20 12:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 10 0

Your sister needs to back off and get her OWN life...NOT YOURS!! Taking walks on the beach is inappropriate! And now you says he wishes your sister could MOVE IN??!! Believe me girl, THAT is NOT "petty"! You should hear the alarms going off!Some sister she is!! ESPECIALLY when you are pregnant with his twins!! She should be talking & walking with YOU, NOT YOUR HUSBAND!!! She doesn't seeem to be too concerned about your welfare or your feelings, either. Personally, as a woman myself, I know how insecure you can feel when you are pregnant. You feel fat, and undesirable. I am a perfect stranger to you, we've NEVER EVEN MET, and YET EVEN I KNOW THIS!!! (and I am not your sister) She is and yet doesn't even have a clue!! What does that say to you? You should talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her if she continues to be chummy with your hubby, she needs to pack it up and LEAVE! Then, clue in your husband! (who is being selfish and blind-because a good man would be adoring YOU and only YOU - you ARE Carrying his child for crying out loud!!!!) Tell your husband how it makes you feel, and that you are extra sensitive right now BECAUSE of your pregnancy and he shoulld be more tuned in to YOUR feelings AND your pregnancy. AND tell him that your "feelings" are NEVER "petty" as he chooses to call them! Good luck and stand up for yourself! No one else will!

2006-06-20 12:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by crazynays 4 · 0 0

Sounds like your husband has the hots for your sister. Maybe when they went down to the beach they had a roll in the sand. Next thing you know he will want a threesome. Maybe you better have a good stern chat with her before he decides to switch siblings.

2006-06-20 12:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0 0

I don't know why but men just don't think about others the way that women do. Be careful, when you are pregnant your emotions can not always be counted on for accuracy. Women especially when they are pregnant or are older women feel very vulerable to what their husband thinks of other women. They don't mean to but in our desire to be the center of our husbands life we don't understand that he may not feel the same way. The best thing to do is just love him inspite of his indiscretions. We cannot control how our husbands act or respond but we certainly can control the way we do.

2006-06-20 13:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i would seriosly think twicxe about this situation ask your siter to find a place of her own help her find apalkce and job i think your husbund is obviously thinking about her in more ways than just one and why is he doing these things for it is very odd and i dont want to upset you but could they have athing going on here that there not telling you about a walk along the beach shouldnt that be you and him not your sister and him?? spy on them and tap into there conversations your bound to find something out not right here

2006-06-20 12:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0 0

open your eyes you need to get your sister out of your life!!!right now !!! im sure he has feelings for her( he loves her ) and you need to start being the attractive women your husband fell in love with your sister needs to find her own man i would confront your sister tell her to leave you and your husband alone... and dont feel guilty about it if she was a true sister she wouldnt be spending all that time alone with your husband WAKE UP!!!!

2006-06-20 20:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0 0

the actual undeniable truth that he said as out yet another man or woman’s call at the same time as making love is the region. and also you would assume that Mildred replaced into pertaining to his mom, perchance it replaced into somebody else. there is better than one Mildred in the international. keep in mind that a slip of the tongue like that frequently signifies that he's spending distinctive time with someone by ability of that call…and doesn’t he frequently call his mom “mom”. except he calls her Mildred, you may question who the different woman is.

2016-10-14 08:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by seelye 4 · 0 0

It is a little petty. They are just talking. Are you twins? If you are you still look so in shape that he does not see you pregnant.

2006-06-20 12:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by caitie 6 · 0 0

wow!!! he has definitely got it for sis!!! he is acting inappropriately in this situation! i would talk to hubby to let him know how you feel about the situation. if he loves and respects you he will cut it off. if he trys to defend it, something else is going on...

he is your husband, why is he giving sis so much extra attention?

2006-06-20 15:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0 0

talk with your husband and also your sister.
your sister has to understand you , if she is a good sister she has to leave soon.
it does not sound good to me
just take care of you and your babies

2006-06-20 13:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0 0

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