i am afraid that if i tell her she will hate me and have nothing ro do with me. And then she wont let me hang out with my friends.
2006-06-20 12:25:24 · 14 answers · asked by nakboo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes - you need help & i hope your mom will get it for you
2006-06-20 13:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by weaver2sl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A bunch of strangers on a website really can't answer this for you kiddo. Sorry.
It depends on your relationship with your mother. It depends on your mother's feelings about bisexuality. It depends on your religion, race, culture, and geographic location. It depends on other family members. It depends on your temperment and maturity level. It depends on your mom's temperment and maturity level. And that is just the begining of the list! There are just too many things that we don't know about you and your situation.
In the end, the only one who can know these things is YOU.
The pro of doing it now is that you wont be living a lie for your teen years. The con is that you might not be as subtle, confident, and capable to handle your mom's response at age 14 then you might be at 15 or 16 or 23. You might want to read this list I found online: 18 Things to Remember when Coming Out: http://www.joekort.com/articles60.htm
But it's your life, so its your call. Good luck.
2006-06-20 14:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait until you know exactly what it is that you want before bringing your mom into the confusion. But when you do figure it out you should let her in on it, she won't hate you, but don't expect some great response. Tell her what you need to tell her and then leave her alone to process things, don't press her for a statement right away. Let it settle, let her mill it over for awhile, she'll say what she needs to say to you when she's ready.
2006-06-20 12:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by chessapeke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you are ready to take her response like a mature person. You seem to have figured out your attraction preference, and she should appreciate that. I think that if you and your mom are really close or something she would probally understand.
There is nothing wrong with being who you are. People are still wondering about me because I can comment on both sexes the same whether Im attracted or not.
2006-06-20 13:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by wishwash06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell her yet, especially if you don't know how she will react. You're still young (I know you probably hate hearing that, but bear with me), so take a year or more to study your mom, gage her reactions when gay issues pop up, or maybe try to enlist another family member or close friend as an ally. Tread carefully, OP. You're in a vulnerable spot until you are legally an adult and can support yourself. Good luck
2006-06-21 13:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever you feel is right. If you are unsure then wait to tell her until you are ready. You can find many good sites for gay,lesbian,bi,&questioning youth on the web that can be helpful to you. I will link a few.
Coming out as bisexaul:
http://www.hrc.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Coming_Out/Get_Informed4/Coming_Out_as_Bi/Coming_Out_as_Bisexual.htm
PFLAG Support:
http://www.pflag.org/Getting_Support-Coming_Out.coming_out.0.html
Youth Magazine for GLBTQ:
http://www.advocate.com/genq.asp
2006-06-20 12:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a conversation shouldn't wait but shouldn't be handed openly...you have to enter any conversation defensively...
ask your self how you could best phrase this statement, and what reprocautions could occur for such a bold contreversial statement, and make sure your cause is strong enough to fight for....but don't hide from you true self.
2006-06-20 12:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by chambers_a_m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. Tell her when you are old enough to move out if you have to. Of course it all depends on how open minded she is, but I would still wait a little longer.
2006-06-20 12:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't be stupid, you're fourteen and in an experimental age. Wait until you have a job and are living on your own without your parent's support before trying to ruin yourself.
2006-06-20 12:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she care about you ?
She does, even if she doesn't show it .
Talk to her.
This phase is temporary. Teen feelings are transitional
www.Troubledwith.org
2006-06-20 13:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always the chance of that,but she is your mom and will be understanding.women are more acceptable about things like this too.
2006-06-22 05:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by cindyxdresser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋