Is it too early for me to want to have a kid?

Question

I am 17 and I want to have a baby with my bf. He is 23. Is it too early for us to have a baby....since I just turned 17 and he turns 24 in two days?

my bf is in the army and has a steady employment and we can take care of the baby if I were to get pregnant.

I am used to being with the military and the military life of way since my dad was military so I am a military child.......we plan on getting married soon anyways so is it still a bad plan?

Answer 1

A baby will change EVERYTHING in your life. Are you ready to give up things such as being able to hang out with your friends, sleep when you want to, run to the gas station or store for 5 minutes. Are you and your boyfriend financially able to support a child? Babies are a lot more expensive than you realize. If not, then I suggest you wait. You probably want someone to love you unconditionally. A baby is selfish, it doesn't care if you are tired or hungry, your world will revolve around making the baby happy and comfortable. I'd experience all you can out of life before you have a baby.

Answer 2

If u just turn 17 the relationship by law is consider illegal. But yes it is way 2 young 4 u to start thinking about having a baby finish school first and have a degree in something.what if u guys breakup or something dont u think it's best if u get married first i dont mean 2 sound like your parent or anything but dont bring a child into this world just 2 keep your boyfriend cause that's what it sound like u doing, take your time it will be for the best enjoy life while u can. Dam* become legal first girl u dont want 2 be a kid raissing a baby think about all the good stuff u can do or buy for your self with the money u have. All i'm saying is WAIT.

Answer 3

It's not too early to WANT a baby, but it is probably too early to go ahead and plan one. I think that some of the most personal growth happens between the age of seventeen and 23-24. You will be a different person in 5 years. I mean TOTALLY different!! Things that bother you now won't anymore, you'll begin to like activities you wouldn't even think about doing now.....you'll have a totally different perspective.
Wait this one out a little bit. Your boyfriend will wait with you if he loves you. Why not take some time just for the two of you? Go on vacation together, or start going on creative dates, like meeting at a certain spot to watch the sunset together with a picnic. It is very difficult to do these things regularly once you have a child.
The thing is, you could have a baby.... if you get your period, and he can make sperm-- you can do whatever you want. But I don;t think you really want this yet. You might want the feeling of a warm baby in your arms, and a little person to love more than anything in the world...or you may want the "family" that you picture with having a baby with your BF. But let's face it....babies don't stay babies, they grow, and are hard, and messy, time-consuming and expensive. Have you worked a job yet? You should work a few jobs before having kids, not just for money but for experience!! For all of the things you will learn, and the friends you will make. And most importantly for all that you will learn about yourself.
I remember thinking that I knew who I was at your age, and now I realize that there is so much more of me that is awesome!! I am more comfortable in groups of people, I care less about what others think of me, and do what I think is right, and it feels great!!
Now that I have grown to love myself, I can teach my children about that process. If you have a baby now, you would be doing that growing together, and it would be much slower because you'd be busy caring for your little one, and not out finding out what totally makes you happy. It's a little unfair to the child too, because they can benefit more from learning from you once you know more about life.
It sounds like you are a maternal girl-- there's nothing wrong with that. It will be great when it's time to have kids, but wait. You have so much more than that to figure out about yourself. You and your bf will make better parents a little bit later.
For now, help with other people's children. Volunteer at a shelter for young mothers. The girls there will need your help, and those babies will love you. You and your BF can be "family" to eachother, and then get married, if you decide it's good for you. Don't ignore your need to be around babies, because it might lead to making a choice that's not really what you want. Instead, figure out what exactly is attractive about the idea of having a child, and then find ways to fill that while WAITING. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I think this decision is completely up to you. As for my opinion I would wait. I am not saying at all that I regret having my children when I was young but I would have liked to experience the things my friends were doing like traveling, college, etc... It's a big responsibility, even things like running to the store are a larger task. You can't just quick run and go, you have to get the baby ready, pack a small diaper bag, and then go. It's a lot of work. Whatever you decide, good luck!

Answer 5

So you want to end up being a "baby momma"? You are 17 years old, you are just coming out of being a child of sorts yourself. You need to go out and experience life for yourself and if your b/f loves you enough he'd agree. You need to figure out who you are, find out what you are interested in, and then get MARRIED before you bring a little one into this world. There are too many children out there who's parents are not together for whatever reason, kids who have no idea who their daddy is, etc. I have met too many women out there who had children too young and have made their kids pay for it. It's not their fault they come into this world needing YOU and their daddy. They take up ALOT of time, money..ummm TIME, your time. They will turn your world upside down! If you are not ready and mature enough to handle this, you'll end up punishing the child. I'm not saying that people who are older and married don't end up with problems and all that but at least they have a better chance. Your b/f might be 23 years in age, but what's his mental age? Does he have a good job so he can support you and whomever comes along? Is he willing to do this lovingly or give you crap about being at home with your baby doing what you are supposed to do as a mother, or giving you guilty feelings that you are not "pulling your weight"? Yah babies are cute and they smell good most of the time, but they are a huge responsibility! Do you have good medical insurance to help pay for your delivery? Can you afford what you will need for your baby? There's alot more to it than you seem to presume. Seriously think girlfriend!

Answer 6

You need to go to college and get a good job before having a baby. Babies are VERY expensive! My hubby and I are both college grads and just had our second. We are barely scraping by, and don't see how anyone w/out a college degree and a decent job can make it. Give your child the chance of having a great life by getting the education that can give your child the opportunity of having a great childhood and really making something of him or her self one day. Good luck with your decision! Check out www.babycenter.com and look for the child cost calculator.

Answer 7

YES! It is way too early to have a baby. You shouldn't even being having any sexual relations with him until you get married. If you love him enough to have a child with him and he with you, then wait until you are old enough to marry, then have all the kids you want.

Answer 8

First off,do you have the means to support a baby?And is your BF willing to shoulder the responsibility equally?Having a baby is no child's game.You will be responsible for another human being from the moment you conceive.Think if you are responsible enough to handle a baby & then decide.

Answer 9

wow i would say hold off till marriage really. im 16 and pregnant with my first son...im about 37 weeks now so hes comin soon. but even being pregnant is hard so i really cant imagine life after hes here even though im really excited and cant wait for this pregnany to be over lol but yea i think you should most definetly spend these years enjoyin life and yourself cuz a baby will only make that much more harder.....good luck tho with whatever you decide

Answer 10

First off it is against the law for you to have sex with him. He is an adult and you are a child. Wait until you are over the age of 18 and you have a wedding ring on your finger. It is important that kids have married parents!

So, yes you are too young to want to have a child.