Her mom moved this far after we broke up which was when our daughter was 9 mo. old. We started to meet where I drove 80 miles and she drove 40. I took our parenting plan to court for modification, in it I made it equal driving distances. Now she has to drive through 3 populated areas and I only have one partially populated area that is hardly congested. Anyway, when she gripes about the drive and request I make the meet point back to the way it was, am I an *** for not allowing it? (p.s. We meet every other weekend and my daughter is 8)
2006-06-20 12:18:33 · 8 answers · asked by Eddie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the 1st 6 years I drove the majority of the way!
2006-06-20 12:40:35 · update #1
Well, I am kinda in the same situation you are.
I am the one that moved away from my 2 boys.
It was about 6 years ago. I am Disabeld and even though it was hard for me to leave them behind, I thought it was the best thing for them at the time. Anyway, I drive about 75 miles while the boys Dad drives about 45. He always seems to complain even though I drive further. Ido this because I am the one that moved away
I remarried a man that just happened to have lived 115 miles away. Because I am the one that made this move choice, I feel that I am the one that should drive further. It was my decision and the ex was never consulted and to be honest, he is doing me the favor to even meet me at all. I would keep it the way it is. Good luck!
2006-06-20 12:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by sweetmellanie 1 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I am going to buck the trend here, and suggest that you show a bit of compassion.
You have the order on your side anyway, so you can afford to give a little now and then. How about suggesting for the weekends involved that whoever drives the furthest one time, gets to drive the smaller amount at the end of the weekend.
If a child sees his or her parents attempting to get along and compromise, they will feel better about their own situation. SHe is 8, she can see and hear what is going on around her. Let her see you as compassionate towards her mother, its the best thing you can ever give your daughter.
2006-06-20 19:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st off if I was a man I'd drive to go see my child. The whole way!
If she's driving thur congested areas they could get in a wreck. That would make me feel like crap if anything happen to my child because her mother had to drive for so long in not so good traffic.
Just what I would do.
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2006-06-20 19:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you can only do what you can do. You can't bow down to every command. Some people don't realize that there are alot of good fathers out there making an attempt to be with there children. She could have ended up with a man that doesn't even want to make that short of a trip and not pay child support. So you know what you are doing a great job and continue to make the efforts to be with your child. GOod Luck to you.
2006-06-20 19:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a female dog. Carefully she does not manipulate you daughter. In a few years She could say the girl is old enough to decide who she can live with. Then she would not ever have to drive again. Renee seams a little spite full.
2006-06-20 19:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by caitie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the drive should be equal
2006-06-20 19:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it was her choice to move so far not yours. Congrats on being such a good dad.
2006-06-20 19:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you keep your months at a time so it wont bother either one of you
2006-06-20 19:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by tony a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋