is it normal to have sex just once a week?

Question

is it normal for a happy married couple of 28 yrs, im 52 she 51 to have sex only once a week?
she says thats the norm.

Answer 1

quality not quantity my friend

Answer 2

Well, whats normal and what is satisfying for both are two different things. National averages are funny, and much is made of differences between countries. But what you are expressing is a dissatisfaction with your sexual relationship. That is perfectly fine, and its good that you talk about it. If she doesn't understand that you really want to be with her more often, then you should explain how you feel. If she is resisting more activity for some reason, you need to find out what that is. Also, women during menopause, and after, sometimes loose their drive. It can be embarrassing, and makes the actual act even less enjoyable. If this is the case, talk to a specialist. They can quickly help by just getting you two on the same page. And there is no shame in getting more information, so go for it!

Answer 3

If once per week is what you both want, then I guess that it is normal for you. But, I noticed the way that you worded your question and am thinking that once may not be enough for you. You said: "is it normal to have sex JUST once a week"? Sounds like you want it a lot more often. Like you said, you are a happily married couple, so try and compromise in that area.

Answer 4

I don't think you can say there's a norm. Since you've been married so long I would imagine a lot of the passion is gone which makes the incidence of sexual relations more infrequent.
Try being more romantic and doing new thoughtful things. Make yourself look nice and treat her like a princess. It should awaken her feelings for you.
I know at 59, depending on my situation, I can be just as active and passionate and responsive as I ever was.

Answer 5

yes it is normal, it also depends on how healthy you are, your mood, your sex drive and so on. I am sure when you were younger you might have had sex 3 times a week, and so think back to the mood, time, health and so on to see what has changed since and why the number of times you have sex is once a week. Note, it's still normal, but you may wanna ask you wife if what she thinks about having sex more than once a week, and what can both of you do to become more intimate in order to have more sexual. Keep in mind the quality of sex is always better than the quantity of sex.

Answer 6

Well, I haven't been married as long as you but you're getting it a little more than me. But for my wife and I, we both would like it more, but there's not enough time/energy. Two rambunctious little kids keep us busy, and tired (and sometimes act as good birth control/mood killers, hehe). When we actually get some rest and privacy, though, the numbers go right up (although not to teenage rabbit levels).
But who cares what's the norm? What's important is, are your needs both being met? If she doesn't want it as much as you, either you need to find a way to make things more interesting/appealing for her, or you need to find a way to be satisfied with a little less. If you're happily married, I would think you could live with whatever result you achieved. Unless it's really 0 times a week. :(

Answer 7

There is no norm. it's different for every couple, and needs are different for every person.

If you think you should have sex more often, you need to talk to your wife about that. Putting pressure on her to perform MORE is only going to put her off. You need to find other ways to spice things up and encourage her to initiate things more often. And remember, there are a lot of things that effect your libido - from stress at home, or work, or anywhere, to illness and hormone levels. Women's hormone levels change drastically before, during and after menopause. And there are many couples your age or even YOUNGER that have sex less often than you do!!

Don't compare yourself to other couples, find what works best for your relationship for you and your wife.

Answer 8

Once a week after 28 years of marriage is on the good side I'd say,better than normal !

Answer 9

Yes, it's normal. Of course you can always have more if you like.

This is what I was told: When you get married, take a penny and put it into a big jar every time you have sex for the first year. And then after that, remove one every time you have sex AFTER the first year, and that jar will never be empty.

Answer 10

If you're a happy married couple and still having sex once a week, you should be thankful. As the years progressed with my wife, the time between became farther and farther apart. She strayed from time to time, but always came back, but I had to completely cut her off after she quit using protection and brought me home a nice disease. I have been voluntarily celebate for 15 years, not counting the one time a week after my wife died when her best friend decided to "console" me.

Answer 11

Count your lucky stars!!!!!!!!!!! We have been married for 27 years and we do not have sex for sometimes 2 to 3 months. He has always been my best-est friend but suddenly he has changed and I almost can"t believe that he is the same person. I don"t know what to do. I am truly dying slowly of loneliness.