years ago i cheated on my husband, he doesn't know our child isn't his. but now it's becoming clear, because our child is taking after her real dad. any help?
2006-06-20 11:55:40 · 13 answers · asked by areyousure 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What exactly is becomming obvious? Do you mean obvious things like "coloration" (eyes, hair color, etc)? Does your husband have anyone in his family with the same things that your child is "taking after"? If so, that sort of thing can be explained by "family sameness". Are these "things" that your child is "taking after" only things that you know about? Has your husband been a father to this child? Will he not be a "father" after he knows? Perhaps, I'm "missing" the problem. You've heard of the "Clinton" policy about gays and lesbians in the military, haven't you? Well, the policy is "don't ask, don't tell"! Unless there's a medical/DNA problem I would say that you "don't ask, don't tell"! But, that's just my opinion. Everyone's got one (an opinion) just like a set of eyes, or lips, etc, etc!!!!!!
2006-06-20 12:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, u have GOT to tell your husband the truth. don't think about yourself for once and about getting out grom trouble, but act honestly and tell him the truth. it's not like u r gonna change anything, i mean the thing has happenned, it's just that this person HAS the right to know that the kid he has been raising isn't his... that u have been lying to him all this time for such a thing.. for "his" child. so just explain him. and expect some emotionally strong reactions. it's not like he is gonna hear the happiest or most normal thing ever..
2006-06-20 19:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by crazy_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell the truth you can 't go through life liveing a lie how can you base a reaslionship on lie he will find out sooner than later and if your not the one to tell he could be real hurt and leave you .....just tell the truth and pray that everything turns out for the best
2006-06-20 18:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by trouble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fess up before he asks you for a DNA test, cause if you can see the change I'm sure he can too....you are gonna lose him, but at least do it with dignity. no man wants to hear the child he has raised isn't his....
2006-06-20 18:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Thickness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its going to be hard and it going to hurt but you need to tell him the truth, coz it just going to dig in to you so badly, and your kids need to find there other sibiligs the last thing you want is one of your kids bring back one of there half bothers or half sisters as there boyfriends/girlfriebds
2006-06-20 19:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say that you tell your husband. Tell him it was a long time ago, and that you made a stupid mistake, and for him to please forgive you. Hopefully that will work
2006-06-20 18:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by ShowStopper77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but u should confront him and i wish u very good luck 2 u and your kids. =)
2006-06-20 19:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by LAURA BBY- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not too good! I feel sorry for you, but you will have to figure it out on your own!
2006-06-20 19:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*´`*ღPink♥*´`*•.¸¸ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on some TV show that exploits stuff like that and embarrass him on national TV.......
2006-06-20 18:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by blueman2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him about it, cuz if he finds out himself its just gonna make everthing worse.
2006-06-20 19:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by partyqueen2o05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋