Do you think being gay is cool?

Question

To anyone whom it may concern,
No I'm not gay myself. The reason I asked this question is because I've seen so many kids and even adults acting and trying to look gay, even when they're not really gay. So they must do it because they think it's trendy or cool, or is there some other reason?

Answer 1

i think being myself is cool

Answer 2

Not really. Living in a society like ours, even though some countries are more tolerant to this issue, is very difficult for gay people. I have seen many gays suffering for the fact that they are not accepted in society or even in their homes. They also have the idea that, if they do not find a mate before certain age, they would die alone. Of course making them feel sad. On the other hand, there is nothing better than to interact with someone who is happy with himself, being gay or not. That is cool !!!

Answer 3

Being gay does not make you cool. Nor does being straight, lesbian or bisexual.
Your attitude towards others and their lifestyles and the willingness to accept people for who they are and not what they are and not to judge people on the basis of sex, sexuality, religious beliefs, race, colour etc and to treat people how you expect to be treated yourself is what makes a person "cool" in my eyes.
Is what worries me most about when questions like this are asked, is some of the narrow minded people that answer them. Just read through other related questions - and you will see what I mean. If you have nothing but nasty, derogatory answers - do us all a favour and don't bother answering the question in the first place. Oh, I forgot - it's the 2 points that their after, not to give an honest answer to a question, or to be of a helpful nature to the person asking the question.

Answer 4

I have read through three pages of answers here, and the only thing I have learnt is that everybody is predjudiced in one fashion or another, I see very few two way answers.

Being Gay is, as many have said, not so much a matter of cool/uncool as it is personal nature (No not personal choice)

Being Gay is often horrifically difficult, emotionally scarring and can have you labelled as a freak by those that aren't saying "you know i don't care that you're gay" everytime they see you. But equally, being gay doesn't have to mean heartache. I as a gay man, tend not to have have problems the way the rest of the gay community do because I do not dress up in belly tops and run round screaming "Accept me as a normal member of society that has pink hair and backside-less trousers!" (Just an example of some mincing queens) The simple fact is that, the majority of people that are described as "homophobic" are not homophobic at all, it is just that as with most decent members of society, they do not want someone's bedroom activities thrown in their faces the way the gay community do. It certainly isn't fear of disease, AIDS or otherwise, since in this enlightened society, we now know that that is mostly transmitted by Heterosexual Couples.

On the other side of the coin there are Biological and Religious views to consider. Whilst the Bible is quite explicit in that BEING gay is fine (as a lot of Ministers are now admitting that they are) but HAVING GAY relations (Intercourse or other forms of relations that can be considered sexual) is absolutely forbidden.

With the biological one must consider not only the fact of not being able to have children, but should we? ADOPTION! Is the cry I hear from a lot of people, but in reality, why would a gay couple adopt? It certainly cannot be said that gays cannot be good parents, I think that it more comes down to the fact that it can be considered unfair to the child (whether male or female) to be brought up in an environment where male/male or female/female couples are the norm.

Ultimately I would summarise the answer as this, "Those that feel that being Gay is cool, do not know what it means to be gay at all" Being Gay is NOT cool, being gay is hardship from day one, even if you are lucky with having open-minded educated family and friends, you will inevitably suffer from self-questioning about such things as Children, God (If you are religious), Trust (Gay people as a rule tend to be more promiscuous which leads to a higher rate of infidelity in relationships), Eventual Marriage (Even the Civil Ceremony cannot replicate the dream of a White Wedding for many), Workplace Interaction and many other things on top of these listed.

Ultimately, even having everything go right for you and having everyone that matters accept you (Which I am fortunate to have had), you may find that the person you fall in love with, has not had the same fortune as you, and you end up going through it all again with their friends and family. Please remember that being Gay, Straight, Bisexual, Transgender, Transvestite or any of the social differences is no different from being Islamic in the era of Islamaphobia or Black in the era of racism or even being White in Denbigh High in Luton, predjudice will always find you for something, people have to hate someone, it's the way the human race works. So please remember that we are one race, the Human Race and it is our differences that make us what we are, just try to exercise caution and remember that you can always be what you want to be, but not everyone wants to know about it.

As my Grandfather said when I told him I was gay, "So? That is who you are, but please don't tell me any details!" Perhaps Gay Acceptance is really a matter of being like the rest of society and keeping the details of what one does in the bedroom, in the bedroom and not on public display.

Sorry about the ramble, but I hope this helps people on both sides of the camp, I will be eagerly watching to see peoples reactions to this answer.

Answer 5

No. It's everyone's personal choice to be either homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual. The supposed "coolness" associated with being gay is opinion only. Its not a latest fashion that everyone must have, although some people act like it is.

I've got a few gay friends and they are nice people, but i wouldn't say they are cooler than anybody else, its just their lifestyle.

I don't really get those who talk up gaylife everywhere they go... like they're trying to turn people en masse. My response is "not everybody is gonna like that cake, darling!"

I don't understand 16 yr old kids who're gay. I mean, what's that about? Younger than that scares me! The mind boggles.

I don't understand others that act gay, 'come out the closet', or become bisexual just for the sake of following trend. It's really NOT cool.

Effeminate guys are really starting to get on my nerves. Some have real female ways but keep banging on about their masculinity. WTF!

* if you've got it going good for you, lutonboi_uk83, hats off to you! I'm honestly very happy for you. please try to remember though, that there is prejudice hot on the tail of this debate and there are those that won't understand you one bit and those that don't appreciate having it thrust down their throats; figuratively speaking. Sorry for the bluntness.

Answer 6

I've known some kids that said they were gay to be trendy. It seemed like it was some sort of fad. I think that's sad, it's disrespectful to people who are gay, and it's just not a game to play.

Answer 7

Damn, you are so right! I don't know where you live, but you should come to Europe and check out guys here! This "gayish" tendency is killing me...but also gives me the opportunity to have a good laugh :)
Answering to your question: yes, for some reason it's cool to be gay. But don't worry, if everybody becomes gay, then it will be cool NOT to be gay.

Answer 8

I'm heterosexual and I think that's very cool. I also happen to believe that standing up and believing in who you are is cool. Regardless of who you are and what you believe in, we are all people. A good way to look at this is to realize that in the public sector we all have to work together.
I think that when people create hostilities with other subcultures, many times, it is they who are struggling with identity. The social misnomers regarding this-bashing and that-bashing typically represents displaced aggression.
What I don't think is cool is when people commit acts of hatred. Believe me, if you're a productive individual, there's absolutely no time to waste on this sort of unproductive behavior. Spend your time on things that will create an impact in your life.

Answer 9

No, being who God created you to be is the coolest.
God created a man and a woman, to be together for life.
This was for three reasons:
1. To Worship & Fellowship with God
2. Companionship
3. Procreation
Anything else is against God's natural design.
If you look around, you will notice, humans are the only ones who
are confused! The animal kingdom understands...no questions!

Answer 10

I think being cool is cool...without trying.

A person should define themselves much more than by sexuality. With 7 billion people on the earth, and with 12 months of the year, your bound to have the same sign, etc, with someone. Does it really mean anything? Does it define and make you what you are?

Answer 11

no, its disgusting, even it acceptable in many countries and culture, its still a topic that people will raise an eyebrow.
the gay on "queer eye for the straight guy" show are looking cool because they know how to cook,latest fashion, culture or whatever , and they ready it for straight guy, not becuse they are gay. Oliver twist can cook and look cool also, he not gay.