How do you know when your doing the right thing by telling someone you love how you feel about a bad situation

Answer 1

The significant issue here is excellent two-way communications----you, um, DO have that, right??? Well, I feel we all wish we had that.

Under ideal circumstances, you should be able to communicate effectively. Yet in order to do so, it takes time to build that repore.... to give that person the understanding of you, through experience, that you are caring, that you actively listen and that you postively engage them in discussions that are supportive and conductive towards common goals.

When in LESS than ideal circumstances, you can still proceed in that direction, and hope they do to. When things 'break down' simply because you express yourself.... that is a big clue that there is more amiss than simply incomplete and ineffective communications.

Even when you do HAVE excellent rapport with that person, its recommended you approach the issue positively, with nice things to say, show that you are patient, calm, understanding. Explain things more from a rational and factual point of view then of 'hurt feelings'. Think about what you want to say in advance, and see what you can do to present the topic/issue in a way that is more likely to be well-received.

Finally, have faith in yourself. You've got your experience in life to date to support what you think and how you feel. If you've thought about the situation and feel a compelling desire to share your perspective, then do so. You've got the sensible responsibility to be yourself and to explain in a nice what what you think and how you feel. The other person is responsible too---for themselves, how they feel, how they react. From that.... you 'should' be able to express yourself and let them accept it as best as they are able.

Good luck!