Do people always have to judge?

Question

When I was at school today. A girl came up to me and told that was wearing stupid clothes and that I was worth nothing. She told me to go die or something like that. What can I say to her?

Answer 1

I'll pray for you, You pray for her too. Don't let it bug you.

Answer 2

Don't let that girl get the best of you, and don't let her see how much what she said to you, hurt your feelings. Then that may give her a reason to continue saying negative things to you in order to get the same reaction.

If she says something to you again, or invites attention from you to her by saying something nasty.. look like the better person, and make her look like what she is saying has absolutely no meaning or truth to it based on the person you are.

I would say to her ..... " What's the point of you telling me that I have stupid clothes on??? " ...." and that I am worth nothing? "

How does she know what your worth? And why should it be up to her to tell you what you are worth?? Put her in her place, and let her know that wearing the best/stylish/cool new clothes is not the most important thing in this world. Remind her that also what she finds stupid may not be what others find stupid, or at least you. Not everyone is going to have the same style and that's what part of being a individual is all about. Let her know that you also could care less about what she thinks, says or does.

She is obviously an insecure person, and feels the need to pick on you or put you down to make herself look better. People like that are followers ....and don't let them bother you. Stick up for yourself, show her that your not going to just let her say whatever she wants and get away with it. ( Don't start a physical fight ) Words hurt a lot more, and she doesn't seem that smart anyway.

Don't let anyone treat you like that throughout your life, draw a line of Boundaries for yourself that you expect no one to cross. No matter who they are. If you show respect for yourself in standing up against her, other students and classmates will respect you also. I promise.

Answer 3

People who walk up and say mean things for no reason aren't worth arguing with. Don't believe her, because there is something wrong with that girl. If you saw someone wearing clothes that you thought were stupid, would you walk up and tell them? No, because it's not a nice thing to do, and would hurt their feelings. Only a crazy person would be so mean. Feel bad for that girl, because she isn't smart enough to care about other people. Whatever you do, don't believe the stupid mean crazy girl, she doesn't know what she's talking about.

Answer 4

It's better to wear stupid clothes, than to say stupid things. Tell her that if she is going to try to insult you, she better bring her A game, otherwise don't waste your time with lame attempts. Besides, she is a sad, pathetic little thing to gain pleasure from insulting people. At least, unlike her, you have character and a good heart.

Pay her no mind. There were girls like that when i went to school in 1970s -- every class has them. They do it for a reaction and to make themselves feel superior by bringing down others. You either ignore it and not react, or you call her on the lame attempts.

You are better than her. Believe it.

Answer 5

It's pyshcology. It's normal in the human nature to be criutical. Alot of the time they need a hug or they just want to feel big by making others feel small. You are probably a wonderful person that hasn't done anything wrong to her. Don't tell her anything, she is being immature and judging because she has nothing worthwhile to offer to anyone. YAou should just have the confidence to know what she is saying is ******** and if you are wearing something the one that has to like it is you. Don't tell her anything because that is what she want's. Ignore her. You know what they told us as kids to ignore and not argue back, it works. She just wants to touch a nerve there. You don't suck and if you like what you are wearing well then **** her and her opinions.

Answer 6

Oooh. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'll let you in on a secret. Girls who do things like that, are only trying to make others feel bad about themselves, because they themselves feel insecure. She must think you are better than her. The best thing for you to do in this situation, honestly, is to smile right back to her, and say," Thanks! You are so thoughtful. What an intelligent lady." And continue on with your day. You will not only make her feel like a total RETARD, but you will come out looking like the better person.
Here's another secret, most people have more respect for the positive people around them, than they do for the snobby ones who belittle everyone else. Just be who you are, ignore her, smile at her, and go on with your day knowing that you are worth so much more than her small mind will ever know. And enjoy the rest of your day!

Answer 7

Everybody is guilty of judging people, some people (me for example) are more outspoken about it. It is okay to judge people sometimes and other times maybe we judge people a little too hard, but we all do it subconsiously whether we like to admit it or not and if someone every tells you they've never judged anyone punch them in the face because they are a liar. If we didn't judge people how would we decide who we want to associate with. For example, if Suzy is new in a school and she is a fairly straight laced person, and sees that Timmy smokes, drinks, does drugs, she then judges this behavior and decides that she more than likely wont want to be friends with him. Later in life we will judge several people of the opposite sex on their character traits (whether they have any control over them or not), to decide who we want to marry. Also we better get used to being judged pretty quick, becuase when we apply for a job, we are getting judged. When we apply for college, we will be getting judged. And yes sometimes we will be judged on petty little things like fashion in life. Nobody likes to be judged, but it is going to happen nomatter what you do, where you go, and who you hang out with. I don't mean to preach at you but if you think about what happens right after you die? You get judged

Answer 8

Why would you feel the need to respond to someone telling you you're worth nothing and should "die" because you're wearing "stupid clothes"? I think she did more harm to herself than anything you could say.

Answer 9

Better than saying something to her, why don't you pray for her? Prayer changes things and prayer can change her! Judging is something only for God, as long as you remember that you will be on the right track, no matter what others tell you. You are a special person in God's eyes and I pray you know that! Best wishes =)

Answer 10

She obviously has a need to feel superior to you. Some people are just miserable and that's how they show it. If you like your clothes, who cares what others think? Some people are just mean spirited. We have all had our share of those types of "jackasses" as I like to call them. As long as you are doing what you are supposed to be doing...and by that I mean adhering to the "golden rule"...treat others as you would like to be treated then keep on trekkin! Just ignore her, don't pay her any mind and she'll move on. If she does continue to harass her talk to a teacher or somebody, and if she starts to threaten your life or anything go to the police. Whatever you decide to do remember nobody has a right to abuse anybody else, and people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you...don't allow her to treat you this way. She'll get hers, what goes around comes around. How you judge people is how you'll be judged...get it?

Answer 11

Ask her if her life is so bad that she needs to make up for it by putting others down. Stand up for yourself....bottom line. You are not there for a dress compitition, some people don't understand that its whats on the inside that counts...remember, she will get back what she dishes out someday. Carma is a nasty thing, what goes around comes around. Don't let her get to you. Have a good life and keep your head held high!