i want to help my husband who is mentally disturbed and he won't talk to me properly?

Question

well i need him to move out...but he won't

Answer 1

Are you sure your diagnosis is correct? Urge him to have a physical, by a General Practitioner. It is just a standard annual check up. The Doctor will screen for mental illness and refer him to professional help, if it is warranted.

Many men don't like going to the Doctor, but they will at the urging of their wife, if just to get them off their back about it. Nag if you have to, it is for his own good. There are few things you can be actually justified in nagging about. This is one of them.

It isn't your burden to diagnose him and treat him. Intervene and get some professionals involved. Then rest easy knowing you did what was appropriate to do.

And then:
I noticed your additional note about needing him to move out. Still, it is not your burden about the mental heath stuff. Would it be easier for you to move out? I'd wait to see what the doctor says. He may recommend he be institutionalized, depending on the severity of the illness.

Answer 2

He has a mental illness- can't be easy. Is this due to depression or was it an unfortunate accident? Your husband should really want to help himself before anybody else can- it sounds like you have xome to the end of your tether with him.

What about taking him to the gp and asking him if there are any support groups available so that you can go along with him and support him that way. Perhaps he is suffering in silence because he knows no other way.
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I have depression although i'm slowly coming out of it. Once i realised what i was losing i quickly came round and started the healing process. If your husband was once a very strong willed person he can get that back with your help. It's not forever and you never know in months to come with some help and support you may want him to stay

Answer 3

I don't think there is any help for some mental illness. I think it is what you might call containment. If he is contained he might get better. He might not. They are calling what I had a light case of schizophrenia and I am now supposedly in remission. I think that is all a bunch of s**t! I have just gotten tired of containment and have learned how to keep a low profile and not act out my "illness."
I don't think the actual illness is as bad as the cure. Once people know that you have a mental illness then you are forever a second class citizen and you pretty much loose all your rights, your wife, your job, your family, your life! And, it is not the illness but the stigma and things that you haven't done that people fear that you will.

Answer 4

I need more details to help out. When you say mentally disturbed what do you mean? How are you trying to help him...with what? Define properly.

Answer 5

I dont know the answer. If I did I wouldn't have left my husband who was depressed for 20 years. I asked him to get help, maybe see a doctor but he said he could not talk to me so how could he talk to a stranger?
Maybe if I had tried harder things would have been different but I had young children to look after.

Perhaps talking to your doctor would help?
Perhaps telling him you cannot go on unless he gets help?

Answer 6

try to speak to your doctor if you both have the same one,if he has any close family try to get them involved if you do it on your own he may just blame you, get in touch with the samaritans they may be able to give you some helplines to ring,if none of this helps post another question and i will try to help

Answer 7

it sounds like there s a need 4a professional help.he/she would how to deal with such delicate situation without hurtin any1.then u will know n decide when is time to end it.take care

Answer 8

What do you expect if he is mentally disturbed????

Answer 9

?What do u mean? U should b mo specific! Holla back!!! Ya girl, Miss *Princess* $Diva$ !Jade!

Answer 10

Keep on trying don't give up.