My best friend for years is getting divorced. We have always been best friends and had a bit of tension in our friendship beyond just normal friends. Now that she is getting a divorce, and following Virginia Law, of being seperated for an entire year before you can be divorced, she and I have come clean on our feelings. Is it appropriate to ask her to marry me now with the understanding that we wouldn't get married until it was legal and all the divorce stuff was settled? Or is it wronng to ask someone wo marry you when they are technically still married? We bot agree that we will get married asap, so it wouldn't be a huge surprise if I asked her.
2006-06-20 10:43:32 · 9 answers · asked by knatwhat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'd say since it seems to be all settled, you might as well make it official. i'd go right ahead and propose.
2006-06-20 10:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All legalities and etiquette aside, I certainly think it's okay to discuss the topic of marriage as a possibility so that you can both have an idea of what your future together is. But to officially get "engaged" or for you to officially "propose" would sort of ruin the event in my book. Why get engaged under certain terms and conditions? Wouldn't it be nicer for you both to get those divorce papers and then pop the question officially? Even if you both already know you will get married at some point, it could still be a nice moment in time to remember without a black cloud over your heads.
2006-06-20 17:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait awhile. maybe she doesn't have feeling for her husband anymore but a divorce is a stressful thing to go through. for now, just be her friend, be there for her, let your relationship develop in to something more, wait till you are both ready for marriage. The last thing someone going though a divorce wants right after is another proposal. just wait a little while OK. everything will fall into place.
2006-06-20 17:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by ☼♥Manda♥☼ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a HUGE mistake to even think about this woman until she is fully and legally divorced. Then in time, say 6 months minimum, you can think about a relationship. Can you say rebound. Do you really want to be that guy ? You know they don't last. She needs to be single before you can have a serious relationship. Until then you are just a diversion.
2006-06-20 17:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a reason why you wouldn't ask her. You both have known each for a very long time. She is getting divorced and has to wait the period and you respect that.
This would actually be something positive in the difficult times that she has to face.
Go ahead.. ask her.
2006-06-20 17:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till the divorce is legal and COMPLETLEY final. Then wait bout a month and then propse. If u do it right a away she is NOT goin 2 b ready to jump back into anotha marriage. Holla back!!! Ya girl, Miss *Princess* $Diva$ !Jade!
2006-06-20 17:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_lilmama_always 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your engagement would be all the sweeter if you waited until after the divorce was final to make it official. Why rush, and have to have a fiancee who still has a husband, right?
2006-06-20 17:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by Marjorie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the divorce to settle completely. If you love her you can wait. And vice versa.
2006-06-20 17:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT SO SOON.. SHE HAVEN'T HAD
TIME TO BREATHE....THE INK IS NOT DRY..YET.. DO NOT DO SO SOON YOU
WILL REGET IT....
2006-06-20 20:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by MAMMA"K" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋