My gf don't wanna have kids at all. Never. But she's really hot, has a terrific personality, good listener, and her parents are very close with me and my dad. I have no idea what to do, 'cause I wanna have at least one kid. Please, help me!
2006-06-20 10:40:54 · 38 answers · asked by denlun84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you have to talk to her about that.
she sounds really great but u gotta ask her why doesnt she wanna have kids? will she want a kid or adopting a kid in d future?
plus u gotta decide how much u really love her cause if u really love eachother n she cant have a kid n u leave her 4 that than i think its wrong
but if she just dont want to u gotta let her know it's a deal breaker
most importent thing: talk to her b4 u make any decission
good luck!
2006-06-20 10:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by irena 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this is her LIFE decision (and not no kids RIGHT NOW), you may be in for some heartache. If she means not within the next 3 years or after she's 30 then you need to consider if you that appeals to you. Be open and honest and it's better to find out sooner than later. Some people say NEVER to soon and may change their minds down the line. But if she is adamant on NEVER EVER, it may be a good idea for you to reevaluate your relationship and determine if you can live with her decision or not. At the end of the day you are responsible for your own happiness. Best wishes.
2006-06-20 10:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by DEVILSCORNER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are. If you're under 25, don't worry about it - a lot of young girls say they don't want to have any kids ever. Then they change their minds. If you're older and are considering marrying this girl, then you need to have a serious talk with her about what your expectations in life are. If one of these expectations is to have a family, then discuss it with her and find out if she never wants to be a parent at all, or if what she really means is that she does want to go through pregnancy and birth, but might prefer adopting. Also remember that adopted children are just as much your child as a biological child would be. You don't love your kids because of the DNA, you love them because they are your kids.
2006-06-20 10:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what. Stop pressuring her. She should have the choice because you are not the one that is going to go through the 9 months and the pushing at the end. Give the girl a chance to make up her mind. Wow, it would be really sad if you leave your girlfriend just for that. In time she might even change her mind? But pressuring someone never works. Give her time to think , maybe she is not thinking about it now because she is at the height of her career or it just isn't the time. She might just reconsider after. Good luck.
2006-06-20 10:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, make sure that this is what you want. You know, kids with out her or her without kids. She may just not want them now and I once said that I didn't want any now I have the 3 most amazing kids in the world. You have to decide, because if this makes you leave her then you didn't really love her in the first place.
2006-06-20 10:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard thing in a relationship...I feel just be glad you are able to have kids...I got married thinking I was going to have kids...Guess what I can't have any...I understand the inportance of having a child, but sometimes you have to look pass that. Pending on how old she is maybe in the future she might want to have kids...I hope everything works out for you too...
2006-06-20 10:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt matter how hot she is if you have different goals in life, you are only going to cause yourself heartache later when you finaly come to the realization that you arent goin to be able to change her mind and have wasted time that you could be using to find the right woman for you with the same goals for the future.
2006-06-20 10:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Keljef99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with her? She sounds very nice and smart.It is hard to find a good partner. Don't rush to have a baby because it's a lot of responsibilities and commitment. You both have to agree. I have 2 kids and I am married. I think you should both sit down again and talk more about your commitments and wants for you both to grow a family. Good luck to you!
2006-06-20 10:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up. If you know you want a child, and she doesn't, why go through it all, and end up married for yrs and have to get a divorce because she doesn't want to have kids. I can see for now, if you are young, not to want to, but if she doesn't EVER want to, where's the future in that??? If you didn't want chilfdren EVER, then great, but I don't think you should stay in a relationship knowing that you'll be miserable later in life without a baby.
2006-06-20 10:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by MentalCaseMaggot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz ishe is ur gf there is no point to get ur gf pragnent what if after some times u changed ur mind? so she has to roam around with a kid ? besides that kid has no ne father..besides u say she is very hot n so cool n everything ... u wanna break up with her just becoz ov a kid ? she is not ur wife ,she is just ur gf there no ne trust if she fuCl
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