2006-06-20 10:20:13 · 22 answers · asked by starie9 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
How old is your son?
Because he is probably just mad and acting immature about the situation or he could just be stressed out right no with pressure.
Just let the girlfriend know that you are there for her no matter what happens?
Explain to your son that there is a baby involved and that he should overcome their differences and at least be there when she needs him.
Because at one point they had to be friends to establish a relationship. Some people make mistakes and it is always best to forgive.
Hope I helped.
Best Wishes
2006-06-20 10:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by lovelyrhonda1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down and talk to him about why he broke up with her. What I would do next would decide on what I would say...did she sleep with other guys or was he running away from his responsibilities.
I would explain that her body is going threw major changes that he may not understand. She is scared and nervous. I would continue to tell him that this is HIS baby and your grandbaby and whether or not this baby is going to be in your lives. I would send him out to get a job. If he refuses then I would take away his privlidges of computer, phone, t.v, friends etc. I would have him pay for clothes, diapers, formula or whatever for the baby. I would even encourage him to be there for the birth. You should also sit down with her mother to know where everyone stands. He needs to know that he just cannot sleep with anyone and leave once they get pregnant. Hopefully with you being hard a bit on him he won't do that again. I would also have the both of them together attend parenting classes.
2006-06-20 10:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by dutchfam7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make him deal with his problems. They were stupid enough to get pregnant, so even if they don't stay together he still has an obligation to fill and to take care of his child. Good luck and I hope your son starts thinking about his future since he will be adding a new person to his daily life. Not trying to be mean or anything but that's the fact of life.
2006-06-20 10:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by sexylilgirl_idealmgf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that paternity is determined so that if it is his child you make sure he gives her the support money she is entitled to.
Be as supportive as you can of whatever decision she needs to make, whether it's to put the baby up for adoption or keep it herself or let your son raise it. The nicer you are to her, the more likely it is that you'll be able to see your grandchild.
They shouldn't stay together just for the child - they will both end up miserable! But they will always be the parents of the child, so he should step up and be a man and put their differences aside for the sake of the child. See the www.drphil.com website - he's got a lot of great info on "co-parenting".
2006-06-20 10:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Danger, Will Robinson! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, it's his choice who he decides to be with. You can't stay with a person because you share a child. It will never work. The more you harp on him, the farther you'll push him away from her and the child. Tell him you support him 100% and you'll always be there for him. He is probably confused and will need all the support you can give him, even if you don't agree.
2006-06-20 10:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Cateyes77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it your son's child, he needs to take responsibility and step up. He's still going to be a father whether they are together or not, and you will be that baby's grandparent. Love that child, help support it. And respect the baby's mom even though they are not together anymore.
2006-06-20 10:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would let my son grow up and take responsibility for his actions. After all, it is his problem, not yours. He will be responsible for child support from when the child is born until it reaches 18. That alone should make him evaluate his decisions.
Good Luck!!
2006-06-20 10:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the girl know, that she had my full support throughout the pregency. After the baby is born, I would want as much interaction with the child, as if they were still together. After all its still your Grandchild.
2006-06-20 10:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i`d go to talk to her parents and give my support, and i will tell my son that even if they are not together anymore he has to care for her and the baby
2006-06-20 10:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by RENE H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make them stay together..but if you want to be a part of that child's life...I would stay in touch with that girl..and make sure the son took care of his responsibilities and that she took care of that child as it should be.
A child should always know their grandparents..that's a treasure.
2006-06-20 10:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋