my husband received a text from a woman asking if he was coming over to her house and i read the text. the girl is someone i grew up with and she also sang in my wedding.
2006-06-20 10:19:49 · 27 answers · asked by DaShirelle W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you should leave him regardless of who he cheated with. Cheating is cheating and you shouldn't put up with it.
2006-06-20 10:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he cheat? A text asking if he was coming over, although
suspicious, is not quite cheating. Did he admit to swapping fluids? You sound a little naive about your relationship. It does not matter who an affair is with it matters if it happened. Perhaps your willingness to give up so easily is an indication why he might be looking around. You need to determine if you wish to be married to this guy. If so start making the necessary changes.
If he denies any wrong doing, you have no proof. At that point you work on the marriage and drop the rest.
2006-06-20 17:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your man strays from home regardless with who or why, you need to do some serious soul searching, it is something you can deal with and handle and if so stay there, if it is something that you can't deal with then you need to leave him and make sure you are sure of your choice before you announce it. Be sure to ask your self do I REALLY love him and is this something you guys can work out and live happily ever after? Remember your wedding vowels and not to let anyone influence you on your decision and do what YOU really want.
2006-06-20 17:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG what a slimeball. Yeah, cheating is bad even if it is with someone you don't know. Someone you know, that even sang at your wedding is like 100 times worse. I would leave someone for cheating. That is a deal breaker. I would also cut off that friend and never talk to either of them again.
2006-06-20 17:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say whether or not to leave your husband is an entirely personal decision. It depends on what you can live with and what you can't live with. Can you live with someone who betrayed your trust? and hurt you? Can you forgive his infidelity and trust him again in the future?
I would say absolutely not once a cheater always a cheater. As far as the other woman obviously you'll have to cut her out of your life no matter what you do.
2006-06-20 17:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Fed Up! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would matter to me how long it's been going on and whether he will be honest and remorseful about it and whether he will totally cut all ties to her. So you need to talk to him. Divorce hurts and should be the last resort, so go through those things first. Then seek marriage counseling both of you, to overcome it. You are bound and justified in feeling bitter. At his end, he may be hiding emotional pain, or he does not love you anymore, or other frustrations, or he may just have been totally irresponsible. Try to communicate, first alone, then seek counseling for a while. As for her, total cutting all ties.
2006-06-20 21:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating and I'd be long gone the very minute I found out he cheated. As for that woman, I'd never speak to her again and she would know why. She knew he was a married man.
2006-06-20 18:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different on whether they would leave their husband or not. You have to decide what you can handle. If you could work it out, if you think he is truly sorry for what he has done, and you want to work it out, that would be the best thing. But, if you are someone who can not forget his unfaithfulness or handle it, then you should leave him. You shouldn't feel like you have to leave him, but you shouldn't feel like you have to stay with him. If you have children, it might be more difficult to leave, but it doesn't necessarily mean it would be better for the children if you stayed if you fight about this. Me, I think I would leave my husband because I would not trust him nor could I handle it. But you have to decide how important he is to you and if he truly is sorry and regrets what he has done.
2006-06-20 17:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cows... ok time to take some deep breath and have a nice take with Mr hubby... time to get things straightened out.... and if he did cheat on you with that woman that's doesn't look so good at all and i think its not a good thing to live with a man like him... try to see exactly whats going on between them and than make your decision... divorce are not just something to play around with so think twice before to make your decision!
2006-06-20 17:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing worse than a cheater is a cheater who cheats with someone you know. It takes being a jerk to another level. If you cant even trust him around your friends and family what do you really have ?
2006-06-20 17:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should send her a copy of your wedding with the message,how could you? why would yo uwant ot be with this man, leave him and dont look back, if he wants her he can have her. you deserve better.get him out of your life, he is a losr and you need to find a better person.good luck.
2006-06-20 17:25:02 · answer #11 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋